As some of you might remember, we have a lovely little girl, 11mo, who was placed with us via FtA at 6mo. BP have history of learning difficulties and drug/alcohol misuse. BM has history of cocaine, heroin, alcohol misuse- however, we were told that BM had "only" taken legal highs during pregnancy. With our bullshit detecting hats on we were pretty sure this wasn't the case, and sure enough, far down the line, we've seen in a midwife's report that BM admitted to using a whole slew of stuff. We have been badgering the local hospital for an assessment of her since she moved in with us (which should have been done by the LA, but obviously they have other priorities). Eventually we got said assessment, and afterwards the team of OT, physio, GP & Paediatrician spoke to me in soft voices about how she was "showing a bit of delay" before sending us away.
DP has just showed me a letter that has arrived today which is a write up of the assessment. It's not so soft-voicy, it's quite blunt, and will probably end up being a powerful tool to help our LO. But to see the words "Global Developmental Delay" and the list of things that have likely led to it (both pre and peri natal) has just made me so angry at BM for the first time. I've tried to feel detached and kindly toward her but now I just feel so so sad and angry. LO was born in such distress the implication is that on top of possible FASD/NAS she also may have some brain damage from lack of oxygen. BM was high at birth.
Our LO is learnign so much, coming on steadily and surely, but she is miles behind lots of others. Now I'm scared for her future. Think I just need a hand hold. The ironic thing is that this very evening I am giving being "The Adopter" in an information evening for the LA. Must get this sour taste out of my mouth before then or I might just cry and that probably isn't the desired effect. BAH.
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arielmanto · 22/11/2016 11:07
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