Hi,
I wouldn't normally ask about something like this on Mumsnet, but I have changed my username and I'm going to keep this very basic as I do not want to give even 1% away. Will change a few bits too.
Boy who is 8. From different country originally but moved to UK. Birth parents use to send him back to original country to be used for various things (not 100% what as have little info on it (so does SS)). Was taken into care. Is this quite rare? As I'm not sure how much experience SS will have so am very worried by any info they give. Been told that he is doing fine with foster parents. Showing no signs of distress, etc. And has been with them a year with no major problems.
I'm just unsure how true this could be? I don't disbelieve them, I'm just worried that if they have little knowledge of this (if it's really rare) they might not actually know the signs. I know it's a very long process, even from here, but just wondering if it's too good to be true?
We wanted older child, but was hoping for a child that wasn't currently needing extra support (I know all children in care do, but IYSWIM) as we couldn't possibly provide them with 1-1 specialists care for their needs (whether that's behavioural, etc.) and we have been told it's quite complicated criteria as most older children do come with specialist needs that need to be met, but he is showing no signs of these. Is that odd? Considering what he has potentially been through? I'm wondering if that's a sign in its self.
I just don't want to get everyone's hopes up all round.
Any views on this?
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Would this child be very damaged/is this quite unusual?
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Changedmyusernameforthis · 03/09/2016 19:10
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