Long story short my DC foster carers became too attached and lied about elements of development and behaviour when it became clear that a forever family had been found (previous to this everything was great) SS stepped in and gave them a lot of support and expedited matching panel and placement date because of this. Our first meeting was awful, horrendous in fact, the main FC refused to attend it and instead sent their partner who although was nice towards me was so very negative about DC. SS launched a full investigation into how things got this bad. The outcome of which hasn't been fully shared with me other than "they are very inexperienced and became far too attached and lied in a misguided attempt to keep DC".
They took good care of DC physically and had obviously built a bond to some degree. DC was under 2 years old and was with them for under 6 months (trying not to out myself with ages and durations so these are ball park figures).
By intros they were fine and ensured that these few days were used to my DC's best advantage and for that I am forever grateful.
Now they either have the skin of rinos or SS never actually disciplined them (I know that's not the right phrase) as they never batted an eyelid and have stayed in touch with me via email. Again a ball park figure but my DC has been home for a few month (over 5 but less than 12 months). We have exchanged a few emails (led by them) where they have asked how DC is doing and I've sent a couple of pics and an update. I'm happy to update via email but dont think I will be sending many more pics, DC is changing and it won't be long before the baby is gone and the young person is there IUSWIM.
They want to meet up, my gut reaction is hell no, far too soon, but I'm conscious this may be more down to my feelings rather than what is best for DC. As grateful as I am to them for the love and care they provided to DC they broke my heart at the beginning.
I doubt DC will remember them due to age, so I don't think that DC would benefit from a meet up either, certainly not until older and it can be explained who they are and can grow up remembering meeting them.
My LA is rubbish and to an extent I blame them a lot for this, FC need support especially those who are new to it but that is a whole other thread!
I need to get my head straight about this before I speak to SS, we are pre AO so I will need their input on this.
Sorry long story not so short in the end!
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