Hello, we're new around these forums so hope we've come to the right place to ask some questions :) We're an English Spanish couple (he English and she Spanish) and we are considering adopting a child in England. We are both aged early to mid 40s. We have some concerns about our personal circumstances that we'd like your thoughts on before we formally start the ball rolling with our local adoption agency / council. Firstly, although we are a committed couple and have been together five years, for work / financial reasons she lives in Spain the vast majority of the time and he in England. Obviously if we are able to adopt, this would change...but in the meantime this is our situation. Will the fact that we are in two countries be a major stumbling block initially or is the adoption agency likely to understand our current situation and accept that we will obviously change our living arrangements if we are able to adopt? Secondly, having spoken to a couple we know who have already adopted, they have told us to expect at least 20 home visits from a social worker (on average one a week). This could prove difficult for us where, at the moment, our lives are split between two countries. Does anyone else have experience of how many and how often the home visits are as 20 seems extreme? Thirdly, what are the main areas of our lives that the adoption agency are going to be most interested in researching and knowing about? For example, he has three children from a previous relationship and has had a vasectomy, etc. I must stress that we are not in anyway trying to cheat the system and we both appreciate that the rules and procedures are in place to protect children. We are however trying to gather as much information to help prepare us for what we are sure will be a long and emotionally tough process. Thanks for reading and any thoughts would be very much appreciated. x
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