Evening all,
DS has been with us almost a year now. Wow! He has came so far.
Within group situations, I.e. Football, dancing, drawing, anything involving a group where by he is required to follow the same set of "instructions" as every other child he physically gets so anxious about. He feels he won't be good enough and can't do it, and when he feels he isn't the best he will not take part. He has to feel as though he is the "winner"
He plays absolutely beautifully with all children of all ages, beaming with confidence when there's "no structure" involved, out riding his bike, running, playing imaginary games, both as part of a group and individually.
But as mentioned he shuts down almost when it's a structured team like environment.
I believe he has real low self esteem, he is getting so much better at not needing constant reassurance all of the time, but he goes through times of needing it quite a lot.
DH and I liaised with the school about this and they've been encorouging him to take part in group activities, he clearly hates this, clings to the teachers etc.
Should we stop altogether with trying him in these environments? Is there anything we can physically do (aside from time and reassurance) to help him build up his self esteem?
He is so so much more settled now, the difference in almost a year is unbelievable, I am so proud of him.
Emotional for all but so well worth it :)
Any tips or advice is very much appreciated
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Buster510 · 15/09/2014 19:02
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