Opinions and ideas needed please.
Daughter (not so much the dear daughter tonight... Hmph) has staged an all out tantrum for over an hour now. The upshot of this is that the evening we had planned cannot now go ahead. I am pretty sure she did it because she was trying to stop me doing something I enjoy. I'm also pretty sure that it was triggered by something that was worrying her today and she has taken the anger and stress out on me as her only channel.
I've cajoled, I've tried the "i can see you're finding this difficult", I've shouted, I've tried tickling her out of her tantrum .. great advice there lady therapist..got kicked in the stomach as a result...I've tried giving time limits to get her ready..I've taken myself out of the situation to de-escalate it... I've tried "if you continue with this behaviour we won't be doing x at the weekend"... I've tried asking how I can help her.
The upshot is our evening is ruined, our friend is going to be stood up, my money has been wasted, and she's sent me out of her room and doesn't want me near her. 90 minutes of this so far.
She's 9. Please can I have ideas of therapeutic consequences so she understands that she cannot keep doing this (it happens every few days over something or other...she dreams up things to be silky or angry about then screams at me a lot) and that her actions impact other people.
I'm biting back tears at the moment. If there had been a partner in the house I would have just walked out and gone about my evening but I can't.
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crazeekitty · 26/03/2014 17:28
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