How do people deal with the time before they adopted their child when the child was alive but not with them. I know that time is not lost to the child but is to the person/people adopting them it is kind of missing, months or years the adopted parent didn't get to know their child.
If you adopt a younger child then there is less of that time, is that one reason adopters often want younger children?
I guess as I was thinking of this I remember what the lady on the 'Finding Mum and Dad' documentary said; something like "We have not put some of the children's ages because we want you to rule yourself in."
I thought about the the 'missing' months or years and wondered if that put me off then I would actually miss out on the rest of the child's life because of not wanting to miss that small bit early on. Does that make sense?
Since watching that documentary I have been trying to be more open-minded about the child we will adopt.
Any advice, very welcome.
Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on adoption.
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