Hello, I've been lurking, occasionally posting for many years now.
Would appreciate any comments / advice / experience you have to offer.
My dd has been with us since birth. She was born with drugs in her system. It was also clear from her birth mothers blood test that fairly high levels of alcohol could be tracked along with drugs throughout the pregnancy.
I should add birth mum is my sister, hence the reason we've had our dd/dn since birth.
When she was a newborn it was obvious to me that she was having some sort of "come down" from the drugs etc. I did my own research along with the hospitals advice and treated her as a possibly addicted baby. She spent months in a sling attached to me. I hoped the screaming was colic but deep down as a mother of 4 children already I knew it was a little different.
Fast forward and she's now 20 months. She is a beautiful, charming and developmentally reaching all her milestones. The "but" is she's so tricky. Very, very active, grumpy, distructive, antisocial with adults and children ( not including her siblings). She reacts with tears and shouts in any situation that's not of her making. It's almost impossible to distract her so I can achieve the most mundane jobs. Now I know that these are all normal toddler reactions. She is my 5th after all and to a extent I have experienced all of these things I've listed. The difference is .... It's constant with dd. it's very possible she is just strong willed and that's fine, more than fine, with me but because I'm not her bio mum and know her history I wonder, am I normalising what may be a clue to supporting her more effectively?
Any thoughts would be appreciated.
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Do I simply have a challenging toddler or is there more to it?
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Mrpip · 14/11/2013 17:20
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