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So proud of my DD1!!

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Lilka Wed 06-Nov-13 16:36:56

This is an unashamedly braggy post, we all need one once in a while

Also if anyone else wants to brag about their wonderful kids (birth or adoptive) on this thread, please feel free to do so - we all love a good braggy thread once in a while


1. As of today, 1 year since her last cigarette (she gave up when pg with DGD1 but then started again after the birth for a few months and then suddenly found the will to give up for good) Woo!!!

She had her very first sneaky cigarette when she was 10 by the way and had a few here and there after that, and started secretly smoking regularly when she was about 12 which made me feel like the biggest failure as a mum ever. Never managed to get her to stop, the older she got the more a day she got through. She stopped all on her own with her family cheering her every step of the way, and it's really hard if you start young so grin grin

2. She really wanted to write something about her life herself and after hearing someone at a toddler group railing against same sex marriage and adoption rights, she was absolutely determined to write something. So, she and I co-authored a blog post about her story and why 'gay adoption' is so vital for some kids. She wrote a lot of it herself and I'm so poriud of her because it takes so much guts, to even anonymously write about the thing she chose to write about. Would you read her writing? (Also, if you like it I think she's really appreciate nice comments, she was nervous about putting it up) - it's here

Any more braggers and achievements? smile

flossymuldoon Mon 11-Nov-13 09:01:30

Wow. Just wow! Not surprised you are proud of what is clearly an amazing young woman.
Living proof that there is a perfect place in the world for all children in care. I am so glad you found each other!

holycowwhatnow Sun 10-Nov-13 21:06:45

This may sound stupid and not a good analogy but I remember when we started telling people we were adopting and many asked if we wanted a boy or a girl. I could never understand why people would think we'd have a preference. What's important isn't the sex of the child but the personality and the fit. It's kind of the same with parents. It's not the sex, it's the fit. Probably stupid but your blog got me thinking, Lilka. ( ANd have to add that now that we have a girl, I'm so so so glad to have a girl. I've found a whole new girlie girl in me that was buried somewhere smile)

Devora, your dd is a credit to you. Totally agree that kindness is the most important thing.

Hels20 Sun 10-Nov-13 17:48:32

I read this and I think it is amazing. Beautifully and expertly written

giraffesCantGoGuising Sat 09-Nov-13 23:25:41

Love it, have shared on fb

Lilka Sat 09-Nov-13 23:17:59

Thanks so much everyone, and DD says thank you as well smile

youarewinning Sat 09-Nov-13 23:10:08

Amazing blog. She is lucky to have you as a mum and your lucky to have her as a daughter.

Sexual preference doesn't make someone a good or bad parent. Someone who can put their child's needs first makes them a good parent.

Your reasons for why a same sex couple, or single person may be the best placement for a child are heartwrenching - but sadly justified and true.

I wish you both all the best.

Inthechelseahotel Sat 09-Nov-13 22:56:43

Lovely to read Lilka, she and you sound amazing

Astarael Sat 09-Nov-13 22:33:23

That was a wonderful piece Lilka. I hope you don't mindas I'm not an adoptive parent but have shared this on my facebook too.

I spend quite a bit of time reading these boards as I really learn a lot from all of you. I've always been pro gay adoption rights but this is again a new perspective. Well done Lilka's dd1!

ObtuseAngel Sat 09-Nov-13 00:27:38

That was lovely to read Lilka, thank you.

Congratulations to your Dd2 Devora. smile

RhondaJean Fri 08-Nov-13 23:47:25

Not just same sex couples sorry that's not quite what I meant to say but hopefully you get me.

RhondaJean Fri 08-Nov-13 23:46:53

Lilka that's a very moving and eloquent piece by your daughter.

I would always support same sex couples adopting on equality grounds but she's given me a whole new perspective.

Kewcumber Fri 08-Nov-13 23:36:09

How lovely Devora - DS's report last year said how kind and encouraging he was to his classmates when they were doing their show and tell. It made me cry! blush Because with his Genghis Khan feisty tendencies being kind doesn't always come naturally to him.

Being kind is so terribly important. It matters to us all, all our lives.

Lilka Fri 08-Nov-13 23:32:15

Devora That's fantastic, what a lovely little girl you have smile You are very right, being kind is the most important thing, and your daughters are clearly a credit to your mothering

Devora Fri 08-Nov-13 23:22:52

Quick brag hijack: my dd2 (just turned 4) got the Big Heart award at school today for being so kind to the other children - especially the little boy with disabilities who, his mum told us, my dd has taken under her wing and is looking after him like a little mother. My heart could burst with pride [soppy emoticon].

I always tell my kids that it's great to be clever, funny, pretty etc, but that the most important thing of all is to be kind. Nice to get that affirmed smile

notallytuts Fri 08-Nov-13 23:05:17

What a fab piece of writing, and a perspective that I'd never considered before (despite being very pro-adoption rights for gay people).

Levantine Wed 06-Nov-13 21:38:03

That is such a powerful piece of writing. Thank you.

jonicomelately Wed 06-Nov-13 21:27:53

Fantastic post. Heartfelt and every word of it true. I recall watching a programme about a boy who was awaiting adoption. He was loyal towards his birth mother, so the sw placed him with a gay couple which he was comfortable with.

cedar12 Wed 06-Nov-13 21:04:42

Great postsmile

holycowwhatnow Wed 06-Nov-13 21:03:23

Powerful post, well done to you both.

Lilka Wed 06-Nov-13 20:50:55

Thanks again - I've spoken to her and she wants people how pleased and grateful she is for all the lovely comments, shares and agreement smile

Tinlegs Wed 06-Nov-13 20:32:02

I have shared this on Facebook. Thank you so much.

motherinferior Wed 06-Nov-13 20:28:56

I loved that grin

Maiyakat Wed 06-Nov-13 20:25:14

Fantastic post - so articulate about such difficult issues. I have also shared on Facebook.

Choccyjules Wed 06-Nov-13 18:58:04

Wow. Thank you for sharing it here and please thank your daughter for putting all this into words. She has clearly explained why one size doesn't fit all.

Lilka Wed 06-Nov-13 18:09:03

Thank you so much everyone smile

I will pass all of your comments on to her (and she will see all the blog comments). She will really appreciate it, it's difficult for her to talk about and she does struggle with writing so it will be great for her to know her efforts have paid off smile

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