This is a crazy request as we have not even had a child placed with us but ..... we are approved to adopt and have a birth dd.
Every year we do a family calendar with photos of our birth dd (aged 9) and a few pics of older relatives who we see about once a year plus the odd Godparent, auntie etc. It has been a good way of sharing photos within the family and a simple gift for relatives.
Because it is personal it is quite costly to produce, and his year hubby is grumbling about the cost of producing and sending the calendar which we send to about 10 relatives around the country and one abroad!
I know it sounds crazy but I had looked forward to the day when the calendar could include a photo of our dd with her long awaited sibling! We are now, we hope just a few months off the chance of a match (alouthough it is 'how long is a piece of string!) so I am wondering whether it is worth continuing the calendar this year because we will do it in the future or if we will not do it in the future, simply stopping.
My concern is that because a calendar can be put up anywhere and we would not have any control where people hang their calendar, would it be wrong to send photos on a calendar of an adopted child, perhaps even before the adoption was finalised? If so for me it would be easier to send pictures of our dd and our new child with a different gift and stop the whole calendar thing now?
I am just not sure what to do about this calendar because I know peopel who adopt are often quite sensitive about photos. We don't usually post photos of our DD on facebook etc and so only send occasional photos to relatives by email but older relies are not on email!.
If people felt featuring an adopted child in a calendar would not be a good idea then I would probably stop this year and find some other way of sharing photos.
Any advice from people who have adopted, please?
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Photos in a calendar - adoptive parents please could you advice
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Italiangreyhound · 17/10/2013 12:35
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