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Cancelled interview and they were rude. Normal?

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bbbbcc · 13/05/2021 21:15

So I was meant to have an interview today. I had a phone call yesterday afternoon offering me an interview for today. The job they wanted me to interview for wasn't the one I applied for. Initially, I accepted, but I thought about it and the new job didn't suit me for a few reasons. It was too late to call them yesterday so I emailed. I got back a reply saying that I was being ridiculous and unreasonable that I cancelled so late notice and that I was aware of the job being offered so I should've thought about it before replying. I replied saying I applied for a different job, not this one, and upon thinking about it, I couldn't do that job at this moment in time. I'm always so polite to people and I get upset easily, but why didn't they just say thanks for letting us know, surely it was better than me not just turning up?

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BakedTattie · 13/05/2021 21:17

Did they actually use the words ridiculous and unreasonable?! Shock

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bbbbcc · 13/05/2021 21:19

The did, not consecutively, but both words were used.

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Timestablesaretables · 13/05/2021 21:22

Was it an agency?

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AwkwardSquad · 13/05/2021 21:23

Lucky escape, then, I’d say!

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Palavah · 13/05/2021 21:23

Lucky escape

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AChickenCalledDaal · 13/05/2021 21:23

In my experience people are always cancelling interviews at the last moment. Changed their minds, got a better offer, whatever. The only reasonable response is "ok, thanks for letting me know".

I'd also never assume that someone would be happy to switch to interviewing for a different role at the last moment. That's just strange.

Try and put it behind you. It sounds like it would have been a stressful place to work.

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bbbbcc · 13/05/2021 21:23

I agree @AwkwardSquad

Not an agency @Timestablesaretables

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christyt114 · 13/05/2021 21:23

Gosh that's very unprofessional of them! You had a lucky escape!

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TheHighlighter · 13/05/2021 21:24

Sounds like a lucky escape!!!!

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Thisgirlcando · 13/05/2021 21:33

I would reply commenting saying what a lucky escape you had

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paralysedbyinertia · 13/05/2021 21:35

@AChickenCalledDaal

In my experience people are always cancelling interviews at the last moment. Changed their minds, got a better offer, whatever. The only reasonable response is "ok, thanks for letting me know".

I'd also never assume that someone would be happy to switch to interviewing for a different role at the last moment. That's just strange.

Try and put it behind you. It sounds like it would have been a stressful place to work.

This. People often cancel, and most panels are used to this. It's no big deal.
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purpleme12 · 13/05/2021 21:44

Wow definitely lucky escape that!

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PyongyangKipperbang · 13/05/2021 21:54

"Further to my earlier reply, I would like to thank you for confirming that my professional standards would not be a fit for your company"

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Lepetitpiggy · 13/05/2021 21:57

I cancelled one today too by email, as this was how all communication had been done - and apologised profusely if I had caused any inconvenience - it's next week. All I got back was a pulling back of the teams meeting.
I mean, I didn't expect virtual tears or 'Noooo' but thanks for letting us know would have been nice!

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Faerysmoke · 13/05/2021 22:11

Of course they shouldn't have used the word ridiculous. But how close to the interview did you send your cancellation email? I don't understand why you wouldn't call instead of email? Emails typically take longer to be picked up. If they were all sat waiting for you to arrive and then you sent an email instead of called then I would be annoyed if I was them as it's a waste of their time. So it depends how close to the time that you contacted them?

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nocoolnamesleft · 13/05/2021 22:14

To be fair, you couldn't exactly give much notice if they only called you to interview yesterday, and the interview was today!

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picturesandpickles · 13/05/2021 22:15

It isn't you, it's them. Try to put it out of your mind and you definitely didn;t want to work there!

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UhtredRagnarson · 13/05/2021 22:16

I don't understand why you wouldn't call instead of email?

That’s because you didn’t read the OP properly. Grin

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PaulGallico · 13/05/2021 22:17

This is all very odd..why did they say you were being ridiculous? You are ridiculous for cancelling..ridiculous for not wanting this job..it doesn't really work.

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paralysedbyinertia · 13/05/2021 22:29

@Faerysmoke

Of course they shouldn't have used the word ridiculous. But how close to the interview did you send your cancellation email? I don't understand why you wouldn't call instead of email? Emails typically take longer to be picked up. If they were all sat waiting for you to arrive and then you sent an email instead of called then I would be annoyed if I was them as it's a waste of their time. So it depends how close to the time that you contacted them?

This has happened to me lots as an interviewer. A surprising number of candidates don't even bother to say that they're not coming, they just don't turn up. It's mildly irritating, but it's to be expected when you're recruiting - you just have to suck it up. You don't send weird emails to candidates telling them that they're ridiculous...I mean, I've interviewed tons of ridiculous people, but deciding not to attend doesn't even come close.
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Chachachachachachachachanges · 13/05/2021 22:32

What a lucky escape! Absolutely weird on their part.

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TheHeathenOfSuburbia · 13/05/2021 22:42

Hmm, sounds like they're having difficulty filling that job. Wonder why that could possibly be?!

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NoProblem123 · 13/05/2021 22:47

You’ve dodged a bullet - well done you 👏

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Honeyroar · 13/05/2021 22:50

Think yourself lucky. That could’ve been your boss! And pat yourself on the back for having more manners than them.

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TheMotherlode · 13/05/2021 22:53

If that’s how they treat candidates, can you imagine how they treat their staff!

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