Hi all, not sure if this is in the right place! Don’t have much time so I will get straight to it. Ive been with my partner almost 6 years. He started been controlling around a year in to the relationship (I was pregnant so I put it down to me over thinking cause of hormones) but the past year he has got worse. Would you class this as mental abuse? I will write a quick list of some of the things that happen.xx
If we argue he calls me a slag, slut, fat ugly bitch, fat cunt etc, he throws things, kicks things, shouts/screams, gets in my face, checks my phone (we sleep in separate rooms because he says I snore too much so I have to sleep on the floor in another room so he can’t hear me) but I’m not allowed my phone in the room with me in case I start texting people (because I’m a cheating slut), he sometimes comes to check in the night and make sure I’m not using my IPad in there. There is a lot more but that’s the general gist... then this year things seem to of got worse. It was summer and he was in the kitchen (in a good mood) then I went behind him and pretended to pull his shorts down (in a sexy way) and he turned around and threw a spoon at me, he threw it so hard it bruised my collar bone then my wrist when i tried to put my arm up, he told me to get over it I shouldn’t of made him jump. I let it slide. Then not too long ago i put a funny picture on his Facebook (I’m not allowed social media) the pic wasn’t even of him just something funny - I was sat on the bedroom floor when he saw it and he threw his game controller at me, grabbed my hair and threatened to put my head through the wall and got in my face. I was really shaken and went to bed. Then the most recent time I spent some money to pay a bill and was going to put it back in a few days (I didn’t tell him cause I knew the reaction I’d get, the money was for Xmas and I spent £40) anyway unfortunately he wanted to check my bank to make sure I hadn’t spent any of it so when he saw he flew off on one he pushed me quite hard (I got mad and pushed him back) then he threw my bank card at my face so I picked it up to put in my back and he grabbed my bag and slammed it out of my hands (he broke my bag I was quite upset cause it was a gift) then said I’m making him in to a nasty person and it’s my fault he’s like he is cause of all the stress i put him through.
I cook, clean, pay most of the bills while he sits and watches TV. Also studying full time which he puts me down about and says I’ll never be anyone and I’ll only fail so there is no point even trying cause I’m dumb.
Sorry that was so long! Is this mental abuse maybe turning physical?
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Mental/physical abuse?
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MouldyMare · 20/12/2020 13:49
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