SIL Have not always had the best relationship but over the years we have learned to rub along together. DH has always taken her side. I have accepted he puts her and her opinions before me.
DD2 has learning disabilities and very brittle mental health , she has bi polar and was sectioned in 2017. She is in year 13 and attends a special needs school. She has PIP at the highest rate for mobility and care. We have a car under the mobility scheme.
There is no way she could learn to drive! She wouldn’t pass the theory test for one thing. Mentally she is not strong to sit exams. School realise that.
SIL and her new husband think the world of her but don’t see the difficulties she has. They keep suggesting jobs she is not capable of doing.
Now DH has bounced into the room announcing that SIL is planning to apply for a provisional license for her. Using the excuse that it could be used for ID , if not for driving. But I know the real reason is they want her to learn to drive. They have been repeatedly suggesting it to her recently. DD does not want to drive. She feels pressured and is fed up with the constant texts she is getting from her aunt. She texts DD when she is at school.
If she has a provisional driving license is there a presumption that she shouldn’t have a bus pass? Currently she doesn’t have a bus pass because she wouldn’t be safe to use a bus on her without getting lost. She goes to school by school transport door or door. During the week I take her to after school activities by taxi because I have epilepsy so I too am unable to drive.
Could having a provisional license affect her PIP benefits?
Need to have a conversation with SIL to stop interfering. Not looking forward to that because DH will not back me up. Yes we have a shit marriage but that is a whole story in itself.
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SIL overstepping the mark
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fortifiedwithtea · 27/09/2020 11:50
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