I’m not sure if it’s me but I constantly feel like in a couple of friendships I’m always the one to push meeting up and maintaining a friendship. I know I’m quite an organised person and suggest putting dates in the diary but now I’m wondering if these “friends” actually don’t want to meet up at all.
Friend 1 - I now haven’t seen for a couple of years but we were once very close. She’s forever commenting on my social media with messages like “oh it’s been so long, we must meet up!” But then when we text and I ask to see her she’s always got an excuse.
We live quite close and her town is where I’d go out shopping so I’ve suggested a couple of times meeting up on a Saturday morning but there’s always an excuse. Then she’ll say “give me some dates next month and we’ll arrange something”. Last time I did that she never even replied but still acts like we’re besties on social media
Friend 2 - we used to work together and were extremely close. I was also very good friends with her partner. She’s just super flaky as well, always too busy to meet up. Then last week I said “shall we have a FaceTime catch up” so we agreed to do it on the Friday (she offered dates and times). Then when I text on Friday afternoon she didn’t reply for ages and then said she’d just finished some gardening. I said “oh that’s fine, I’ve just gone for a walk so free to chat whenever or we can do another time”. And then never heard from her again. She lives at home with her parents and has no children.
I do have a close group of friends who I meet up with every couple of weeks so it’s not like I’ve got no friends. It’s just annoying that other people who I’d have classed as friends appear to have no interest in maintaining a relationship. It’s not just these examples either but various other people I find I’m the only one to maintain contact with. I want to keep in contact with them but perhaps it’s easier to just let it go
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Does anyone else have friends like this?
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FizzyPink · 17/07/2020 08:43
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