Not asking this to be goady. I have been an SM for over 20 years and have low self esteem re my appearance (am mid 40's and look it. I've also had a 'hard life' eg. food poverty and no money for skin care and haircuts ect. in my 30s) Still in a low paid job. Anyhoo, as I've posted on here recently, ere's this guy at work, I've known him for a while in a purely professional way, worked on things together and felt nothing except what a nice helpful colleague. However, we had a meeting the other day and it was like BANG he's gorgeous and I must have him now.
However, because of my lack of looks, or rather because I don't feel attractive, I keep thinking: 'He'd be horrified if I asked him out' He's leaving, so part of me feels like it's now or never...but the self critical voice stops me.
So, I just wanted to see if anyone else felt the same at the start of their relationship and was proved wrong?
I think DH is better looking than me, but then I remind myself that I don't see what he sees when I look at myself in the mirror. You don't know why people are attracted to other people really. I hate my crooked tooth for example, but others may find it endearing.
Less but after 25 years I have no insecurities. Once in a club a woman even pushed between us and told me he was out of my league. DH laughed and said, 'That's my wife and on your best day you'll never hold a candle to her.'