My husband and I eloped and married after only 6 months of knowing each other. Everyone thought we were mad and that it would last 5 mins. We were I guess madly in love and obsessed with each other that first year as it was all so new and exciting and we also traveled the world together and ended up settling in a totally new country. However as soon as real life started (we’ve now been married 5 years) had a little boy I honestly think he hates me. I can’t do anything right and I’m constantly treading on egg shells. If it’s not that I’ve cooked him the wrong dinner it’s that I’ve dared to ask him about the most simple task like hanging up some shelves. This has pretty much resulted in me doing all the tasks rather than even ask and get barked at for ‘constantly moaning’. I work part time, do 100% housework, cooking, lunches etc etc look after our son. All I get from him is ‘I’m tired I work hard’ (which he does I can’t take that away from him) but can’t he see we both work hard and that’s part of real life not just constantly be resentful and grumpy? And yet suddenly he will perk up after I’ve done all the evening tasks like wash up and tidy up after our son, and he’ll expect sex from me.
How do I save this? Is it worth saving...I can’t even talk to family as I dont have the best relationship with them and a proud part of me doesn’t want to prove them right about our marriage.
Maybe relavent also...his own mother was a horrible woman who mentally and physically abused him most of his young life....does he just have a hatred for women?
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My husband hates me
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Laylalala · 18/11/2018 01:55
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