Bullying issues at school

[nananaps]

two boys in ds's class.
This has been going on for a while.
Teacher says he will handle it, but is a bit, well, "wet" for want of a better description.

That was two weeks ago, ds says its still going on, he wants to leave the school.

I plan on going in on Monday after school to have a chat with the teacher, to see what has been done and to let him know that ds says its still happening.

Its making ds miserable, he pretended to have d&v last week so he wouldnt have to go in.
Feel i need to do something, but not sure what.
How long do you leave it before you intervene and push harder for action?
Do you push for action???

Any one been in this situation? What did you do?

[DawnOfTheDee]

Don't have any experience but imo it's been 2 more weeks with more noticeable improvement so yes definitely you need to be pushing for action.

Did the teacher tell you exactly how he is 'handling' it? I would want to know there is a clear plan of action and what, in detail, that entails.

How old is your ds btw? And what are the boys doing?

[fridayfreedom]

if it is making him so miserable then it needs sorting. Ask to meet with teh teacher, ask what exactly he is putting in place and use the 'b' word, do not let this get fobbed off as just some usual banter, if it is making him so upse it is bullying!!
If it doesn't get better go to the next level of teaching.
My son had lots of incidents of this but seems to have got to teh other side of it now. People sorely underestimate the effect of what may just seem like simple teasing.
He was also included in sessions led by the school to help children deal with these idiots, this seems to have helped.
Finding something of interest outside school with other groups of children also helped.

[nananaps]

ds is 9. The boys started on the first day back taking the piss out of ds's new school shoes.
Excluding him for playing at lunch time and stuff like that. Shouting at him, name calling.

Teacher has threatened the boys with calling their parents in if it persists.

There have been incidents where the teacher has told ds that there is no need to tell us, he will sort it....so now ds wont tell us what has happened in the day!

It is for this reason that i am going in, parents have not been called in.

So, this is definitely not ok, but it is just ds's version, i am sure that the teacher wouldnt tell ds to not tell us things.

[FoofyShmooffer]

Headteacher.
The Teacher is being ineffective and clumsy.
My Ds was being bullied far too long while I waited for things to be sorted. When I think about the shit time my poor lad went through it upsets me so much.
The problem with my DS was his teachers were treating each incident as separate from each other. It took for me to go in with a detailed list to the Headteacher for it to be stopped. And it has. So far.

[FoofyShmooffer]

Sorry your boy is going through this.

[DawnOfTheDee]

Agree with friday - use the word bullying and don't be afraid to escalate your complaint if need be.

Threatening the boys with telling their parents doesn't sound like a well thought out plan tbh and clearly it is not working/being followed through.