how DO you cope with your child having a popstar crush which is all consuming and driving you up the bloody wall!!

[piratecat]

Wasn't sure where the hell to put this!

She's 91/2, he's 39 (yes I know every bloody detail) ! I worry it's not normal, but only because I am very aware she has missed out on having a dad, so then i think, well it's understandable. She wants a role model, a fantasy iyswim!!

I have had plenty of crushes, and still do. BUT this is driving me mad, every other word and thought is this crush. !!!!

hold my hand thru the barrage someone please!!!

[piratecat]

If i say yes isn't he great, i get more of it, if i say well not everyone is perfect, thus trying reduce the god like status of popstar, i am in danger of upsetting!!

it's funny really, but not.

[piratecat]

bump

[MrsDmitriTippensKrushnic]

As long as she's not planning on running away and stalking him I'd just leave her to it tbh. Crushes on unreachable people are on the whole a fairly safe way of exploring all the weird emotions and feelings that start during puberty (and I speak as someone who had terribly obsessional crushes as a child/teenager, and adult)

Apart from annoying you, is it affecting her normal life at all?

[MrsDmitriTippensKrushnic]

Stupid strike through

[Whatevertheweather]

Who is it? Is it the age that puts you off? How would you feel if it was say someone from One Direction? My dn is 6 and has a crush bordering on obsession with Aston from JLS I think it's normal but don't remember even thinking about boys when I was that young

[ScarlettIsWalking]

Who is it? :)

[SkinnyGirlBethany]

I had one at 11 on Stephen gately it was fine- yet I have always had a thing for older men due to daddy ishoos

[piratecat]

it's not affecting her normal life, apart from the fact she doesn't talk about anything else!!!
to everyone, all the time. i am not really bothered about the age, she see's someone she admires, and i know it's normal to have these feelings.

She is developing/maturing hormonally, and has been since she just turned 8, and it's all come earlier than i had expected.

Kissing the pictures, carrying them round, dressing like him!! Talking to me in a Manchester accent, in fact being Mark Owen!!! It's been 4 months non bloody stop.

[piratecat]

skinnygirl, that's the bit of it that alarms me, her own dad hasn't bothered with her and has let her down for 6 yrs, so she is prob transefered stuff on to this devotion.

i guess it's also about self worth. very hard to distinguish what is a normal crush and what bit is becuase of her dad abandoning her, i just want to get right, have to be so careful not to say 'actually dd Mark owen is lying cheating bastard!!'

[piratecat]

hello.

anyone else out there getting driving up the wall?!!

[smearedinfood]

Mark Owen but he's a dirty cheater... Pah!

I had crushes on unattainable popstars but had friends that suitably took the piss out of me..

[piratecat]

i know! i have said 'he's not perfect you know'

but i got a dirty look!

[TeamDamon]

I remember my crush on Morten Harket (showing my age here) which was absolutely obsessive - I was convinced that he and I would get married eventually - but I was a little older than your DD!