Christmas Stress

[citygirl7]

Hi,

Am I the only parent who finds this time of year incredibly stressful? I feel like a terrible parent, as though I should be making the most of these precious magical moments with my children. Basking in the festive spirit, family time and no work.
But I just feel horrendous. Every year. The incredibly busy build up to the 'big day'. Shopping for two family's as well as friends, organising children's social calendars (how many pantomimes / non uniform days / Christmas jumper days / discos/ parties/ visits from Santa can they possibly have?)
I work two jobs. About 50-60 hrs a week. As soon as this stops for a few days, I run straight into cleaning / cooking / tidying / visits from and to people. Family and friends getting upset if we can't see them. I have a husband who tries, but inevitably never ends up doing anything in the run up to - or over this period. I find myself feeling alone, like a work horse, run into the ground, and just wanting to hide away until it's all over. Am I just a grinch?

[TrollTheRespawnJeremy]

You're not alone in finding it stressful- but given what you have on it is no wonder!

I think you need to draw a line under a lot of it. If people are upset that you can't see them and they know you well enough to know what your life is like then are they really your friends?

Make a pact to let go a bit next year. It is easier as children get older and can orchestrate their own xmas crafts etc that you dont have to supervise so much.

Husband needs to pull more weight. What he is doing is unfair. If he wishes to continue enjoying family christmases then he has to contribute!

[Chottie]

I think you need to be realistic and really think about what you can and can't reasonably do.

Perhaps others could host next Christmas?
Make a list of all the things you and your family really want to do and get those sorted first.
Keep things simple, not everything has to be homemade.
Get your DH involved in shopping for presents for his side of the family
Get your children involved in wrapping up presents / writing labels. It doesn't matter if the wrapping is a bit wonky or the writing not perfect.

[Mrskeats]

Have reasonable expectations and get your husband to take part-why is it all on you?