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Present for 92yo MIL with dementia

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CocktailQueen Wed 09-Nov-16 11:27:54

In a care home, has everything she needs. Doesn't read any more. No real room in her room for more photos/pics. Gave her a cushion and blanket last week. Help!!!

OutnumberedbyFurchesters Wed 09-Nov-16 11:30:01

I know a lot of ladies with Dementia who've loved a little doll, as it gives them something to care for, and a bit of a focus?


Murphysgirl Wed 09-Nov-16 11:30:16

What about a twiddlemuff?

Ethelswith Wed 09-Nov-16 11:50:35

I have given an elderly relative in similar circumstances CDs of hymns and school assembly songs (she was a primary school teacher, and I was hoping they might resonate).

I've bought a CD of carols (lively ones) by a cathedral choir for this year.

Other things to consider: hand cream, body lotion (check if skin fragility is an issue), reed diffuser if you can find one in a known favourite smell, pretty box of tissues, adult colouring books if she could still manage them

OrangesAreTheOnlyFruit Wed 09-Nov-16 12:38:17

How about corralling her photos into a memory album and add in some extras like bits of fabric from loved clothes/blankets etc and bits of jewellery? Things that she will accurately recall from many years ago. Or a collection of popular songs from the 40s, some trad lippie etc?

JellyTeapot Wed 09-Nov-16 12:42:28

For a similarly aged relative with dementia last year I made up a little gift basket with proper old school toiletries in it - original Imperial Leather soap and so on, things she might remember.

LizzieMacQueen Wed 09-Nov-16 12:51:09

Bottle of whiskey?

All the above are really thoughtful though my first (evil) thought was, wrap something she already owns. Would she know?

Apologies if I have lowered the tone of your sweet thoughts.

CocktailQueen Wed 09-Nov-16 16:48:08

Ha - a bottle of sheery is a good idea. I also LOVE the photo album idea. Dh has all her photos etc in our garage hmm, which he has to clear out, so I could have a lkook through and put together an album of old ones. I also thought about a cassette player with a tape of 40s songs... She also loves carols - one of the few things she can remember is the words for Xmas hymns. Thank you all smile

kizzywizz Wed 09-Nov-16 17:12:45

I work in a care home, a resident can never have too many toiletries.

MapMyMum Wed 09-Nov-16 17:15:26

Photoblocks and a hamper of toiletries etc

JinkxMonsoon Wed 09-Nov-16 17:17:56

Nice chocolates? My nan also has dementia and is in a care home, and loves little treats like that, especially if she's not been eating much recently.

Sgtmajormummy Wed 09-Nov-16 17:18:07

Olfactory memory is one of the last to go, so what about some fragrant biscuits or cake? Do they still make Jamaican Ginger or Golden Syrup cakes?

nell15 Wed 09-Nov-16 17:22:47

I get my mum fleecy socks - she hasn't any mobility so wears these instead of slippers, music, talking books, Toiletries, whisky, dolls and soft toys - she talks to them and cuddles them. I see a lot of the residents with those woolly wrist sleeves things with bobbles etc on to fiddle with

Artandco Wed 09-Nov-16 17:24:39

One of those teddies which can go in the microwave ?

thatsn0tmyname Wed 09-Nov-16 17:25:59

Flowers/ a Christmas flower basket?

ClaudiaWankleman Wed 09-Nov-16 17:28:49

I second the doll idea - a relative with dementia is often inseparable from her doll, which has a motor in which gives the doll a heartbeat and some warmth. It's really lovely to see her interact with it in a way which she can't with adults anymore.

CocktailQueen Wed 09-Nov-16 17:42:08

I don;'t thikn her dementia is bad enough for a doll. Interesting thought, though. I like the Twiddle muffs. We take in toiletries for her whenever the home asks. I like the idea of a scented thing. Will ask dh what his mum's fav smells were. Thank you all.

ObsidianWinter Wed 09-Nov-16 17:43:21

Maybe something like this?

ChimpyChops Fri 11-Nov-16 00:35:20

The twiddle muff is a good idea, highly recommended for dementia patients. I would also second the toiletries suggestion, I would buy some nicer ones than usual, find out if she has a shower or a bath and cater to that with some lovely bubbles or some lovely smelling shower gel. I new nail kit or hairbrush may be a nice idea too.

PeppaTheFirst Sat 12-Nov-16 23:43:59

Last year I got my gran some really nice flowery mugs and a set of cake/biscuit tins to brighten up the kitchen. She is still in her own home (sheltered accomodation) and used to be so house-proud. Each year my Uncle makes up a calendar for her using family photo's. Smellies are also a good go-to pressie. Anything lavender or rose does the trick!!

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