To spend some of the kids' Christmas money on a meal out?

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Happythistime Wed 27-Jan-16 17:34:54

Can't decide whether this sits right with me or not.

We are thinking of taking the kids to the Rainforest Cafe at the weekend. It is super expensive due to its central London location and themed interior. I want us to go and not wince at the prices and I know the kids will love it so am toying with using a little bit of their Christmas money that they've received from relatives to go towards the bill.

I think that if Christmas money I had given to a child went towards a nice day out, be it a meal or a show or something similar I'd be happy with that. Usually we just put their gift money straight into savings as they have more toys than they need. A bit of me worries though that people would see it as me and DH profiting from their xmas presents. We would obviously pay the bulk of it and only put a bit of their money towards enabling us to go and enjoy it without feeling resentful at the prices. AIBU?

Grapejuicerocks Wed 27-Jan-16 17:36:30

Sounds ok to me.

nilbyname Wed 27-Jan-16 17:36:44

I think it's fine.

Arfarfanarf Wed 27-Jan-16 17:37:14

Nope. You arent spending it on fags and chocolate cheers mum
go for it.
It's being spent on a treat for them. That's what it's for.

SellFridges Wed 27-Jan-16 17:37:41

I think that's a great use of Christmas money. We often use our DC's "gift" money towards nice days out, including meals.

I'm sure someone will tell you that you should be saving it all for them though.

Muskateersmummy Wed 27-Jan-16 17:38:53

I think it's fine. Their money doesn't have to go on toys, it can be spent on experiences. Go and enjoy it x

ImperialBlether Wed 27-Jan-16 17:38:57

You're overthinking this. Go and have a lovely day out and spend their money to achieve that. Nobody is going to hold you to account for it, are they?

Katedotness1963 Wed 27-Jan-16 17:39:28

I would not use it for a meal. I would not be happy if I gave the money and found out later that it was used for a meal.

RainOhJoyus Wed 27-Jan-16 17:39:40

If I gave cash and you took them there with all the money then I would think it was a great idea.

RainOhJoyus Wed 27-Jan-16 17:40:04

It's not just a meal, it's a fun day out

Hassled Wed 27-Jan-16 17:40:09

I think that sounds like a lovely idea. My DCs' presents are increasingly in the form of events/outings rather than "things" - they have quite enough stuff, really.

FlopIsMyParentingGuru Wed 27-Jan-16 17:40:46

I would prefer that to a toy they didn't need

Artandco Wed 27-Jan-16 17:43:58

I would use it

However I would review the rainforest cafe if possible, the food is dreadful! Even my 4 year old wouldn't eat it

AnnPerkins Wed 27-Jan-16 17:44:24

YANBU

You have to walk through the shop to get to the restaurant so take enough cash to buy them some animal-themed tat as well.

OnlyLovers Wed 27-Jan-16 17:44:25

I'd be perfectly happy if money I'd given was used for a meal out. It's a treat for them.

Kate, why would you not be happy? I'm curious.

Merguez Wed 27-Jan-16 17:46:14

You don't say how old your DC are, but I think you should ask them what they think.

After all, it's their money.

Happythistime Wed 27-Jan-16 17:46:48

Thanks all. Seems the consensus is that is ok. DH is a bit funny about it though and may need convincing that the parenting police won't be turning up if we spend it on anything other that MORE lego or put it in the bank hmm

Katenka Wed 27-Jan-16 17:47:47

I wouldn't do it.

Unless the kids has said that's what they wanted to do with it.

It's their Christmas money. This is treat for all of you.

But each to their own

Mlb123 Wed 27-Jan-16 17:48:03

If the children want to go for a meal there then yes its fine, but if they don't really want to and it is benefiting you and your husband mainly then I think it best only a very small amount of their xmas money be used.

Happythistime Wed 27-Jan-16 17:48:54

DSs are 3 and 6. I've not asked them about this as the trip to London is a surprise until the weekend.

Merguez Wed 27-Jan-16 17:49:06

Just looked at the menu. 17 quid for a burger! Surely you can find somewhere better than that for the money!

newyear16 Wed 27-Jan-16 17:49:47

Who would know unless you tell them?

Pocketrocket31 Wed 27-Jan-16 17:51:16

Omg!! No. I would not spend my kids Xmas money on meal out. Mine is 9 & would not want me to do that. It's his money for savings or something he wants to buy not food. Asif!

peggyundercrackers Wed 27-Jan-16 17:51:23

Nope I wouldn't use it to take them for a meal no matter where it was. That's not really what Christmas money is for - it's not really day out is it? It's going to a themed restaurant.

Katenka Wed 27-Jan-16 17:51:41

DSs are 3 and 6. I've not asked them about this as the trip to London is a surprise until the weekend.

But I wouldn't unless they said 'I would like to spend my money on a meal at X place'

You giving them the idea isn't the same. I can't imagine a 6 & 3 year old would come up with that.

It's just my opinion, but it's your idea to go there. I wouldn't spend their money on it.

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