To keep a gift from a person harassing me and then ignore them?

[Yumdoritos]

I've had someone sort of harassing me online. They tell me they're in love with me despite me barely having spoken to them and never hinted at anything more than friends, we are barely even friends but more than acquaintances. I have never met this person in real life.

After a few months of being harassed and being too polite to block them (but being strict and making clear how I felt to them - which was nothing!) they recently sent me a "present" to a post office near ish to me for me to pick up. I was very dubious and took a friend with me to collect it. The post office is 30 mins away and the sender does not know my address, only the town I live in.

The present that they sent me was an expensive item, aswell as an Amazon gift card for quite a large amount. I can only assume they sent it to try and win me over or something? They later asked if I'd received it and I said yes but then they didn't even mention it again and we barely spoke since.

AIBU or can I get in trouble if I keep this present and then block the person? They do not have my address but know my name. There are lots more details of how they've harassed me or been creepy online but they might be too identifying to post. I want to block them as I should have done months ago, but worried I can get in trouble somehow from doing that. The person is also quite well off so I highly doubt that the stuff he sent me is stolen or anything along those lines. I think he was just desperate but he's done too much weird stuff to me for me to feel bad for him at this point

[WanderingTrolley1]

So, someone is harassing you, you want to grab hold of the loot, but block them?!

YABU.

[Mummyoflittledragon]

YABU to consider blocking them and keeping the gift. Return the gift. Block the person. They need to understand no. Right now they're being given very mixed messages as you accepted the gift.

[Iwasjustabouttosaythat]

YABU. Accepting weird gifts from a weirdo is encouraging the weirdo. Can you send them back? If not I would send one final message to say you will not accept the gifts and where can you send them. Return gifts or go ahead and block that person and do no talk to them again. If you can send the gifts back then do so and block that person and never talk to them again.

[Yumdoritos]

I guess I mainly collected the gift out of curiousity. I sort of feel bad but don't in another way because of all the weird shit he did to me. There was no return address. I could ask for one but that means interacting with him again my own fault for not blocking him earlier I suppose but I felt sorry for him. I made clear from the start that nothing would happen, I was even very rude and blunt about it so really don't think I'm sending him mixed signals. I even have a partner and this guy knows that and still persists! (Partner knows about all this btw)

[Scrumptiousbears]

Have you blatantly told him to leave you alone? Does he keep harassing you? What type of harassment is it?

[user1480946351]

You can keep the stuff if you want, it was sent to you. You cannot get into any trouble.
Block them and move on.

[llangennith]

Sounds like you're enjoying the attention. Grow up!

[londonrach]

No, keeping the gift says yes but your messages say no. You confusing them. Return gift and block person. You cant keep this gift!!!!

[Mummyoflittledragon]

You collected the gift out of curiosity. Well that didn't work out well, did it? Of course it's sending mixed signals. Accepting the gift is encouraging them. I don't think they care you've got someone else. Just block them if that's what you want.

[Yumdoritos]

He knows nothing about me. Doesn't even know my age or anything about my life. Madness. Maybe it seems now even more so I am sending mixed signals by taking the gift but obviously didn't know what it was til I got it which was about 2 days ago and then made it clear to him that I thought he was crazy

[GinIsIn]

Return the card to Amazon explaining the circumstances and they will refund it. When you buy an Amazon voucher or card, the sender usually gets a notification that the balance has been used. What message do you think that sends?! Of course you can't keep it!

[Pluto30]

It was a bit stupid to accept the present.

But he sounds like a class A creep, and if what you're saying is true, I'd really be considering taking a no-contact order out on him.

[londonrach]

Seem your update! Seriously you can not keep this gift!!!! I throught no at some random gift but an engagement ring...return it registered post!! Sounds like you are enjoying this. Return the gifts, block person and maybe consider a reporting to police. Change your mobile phone number and never give your address out. This person could become a stalker!

[coolaschmoola]

Why on earth didn't you block him at the FIRST unwanted dick pic?!

Sounds to me like you initially enjoyed the attention and let him carry on.

[Yumdoritos]

Trust me I am not enjoying being creeped on. He doesn't have my address but does have my phone number (from a group chat that someone else added him on, grr). Really wanted to avoid talking to him again to get a return address. If one had been on the envelope he sent it in I would've returned it after seeing what it was while I was still at the post office

[Yumdoritos]

It's been going on for like 4 months now. I dont know why I didn't block him earlier, mainly because we have loads of mutual friends and by blocking him it would have messed with the activities I did with those other people. I did still make it clear that I didn't like him whatsoever, after that he would act normal again until the next incident. But we barely even talked 1 to 1 at all, always just him trying to talk to me while we were in the group chat

[Simonneilsbeard]

This guy has sent you dick pics I'm assuming and you didn't block him? Get a grip!
You're clearly enjoying the attention. Any rational person and especially one who's engaged to someone else, would have blocked immediately.
The fact that he's sent you these pics and you didn't block him has sent him the message that you like it, which you do.
You accepted the gift when you picked it up from the post office.

[mirokarikovo]

Keeping the gift is a bad idea as it will encourage the obsessive behaviour. Donate it to a charity shop (or sell it and donate the proceeds to charity) - it was a bit silly to collect it. Stop being polite and nice - this is also seen as encouragement by the obsessive person. This is a stalker - they can turn nasty and you may need to involve the police. You need to tell them clearly - and without any trace of nice-and-kindness - that you want zero contact of any kind, then block all contact on social media.

[Yumdoritos]

As I said, I do not like the attention and definitely did not like the pictures. But I suppose you know my mind better than I do huh?

I play a game online with friends as a hobby. We all put a lot of time into it. This guy was in the group and we couldn't remove him from it so when we played he was still always there. I couldn't have blocked him because we needed to communicate for the game (as a group, not just me to him). As sad as that sounds it's my hobby that I enjoy and I didn't want to fuck all my group over because of blocking him so I told him to stop which he would do for a couple of weeks before starting being creepy again. He recently quit the game and so I can block him without it affecting anybody

[GinAndTeaForMe]

This is stalker material. Contact the police.

[mum2Bomg]

I had something similar happen to me. I really feel for you because they keep doing things that mean that the 'ball' is then in your park and you have to react in some kind of way. I think they like this.

I'd call the non- emergency police number, report him, give them the crap he has sent you and forget about it. Block the crap out of him.

I don't think you'll be enjoying this - it's horrible having someone do this to you