Would you go and visit your son, in uni, if they needed stitches?

(178 Posts)
jimmyjimjim Mon 19-Sep-16 13:17:59

I'm definitely very protective of him.

It's on his cheek sad would you go and visit?

soupey1 Mon 19-Sep-16 13:19:38

Not unless he was specifically asking me to or there was some issue with how he got the injury. If it was just an accident or sporting injury no.

RedHelenB Mon 19-Sep-16 13:19:58

If he wanted me too

wornoutboots Mon 19-Sep-16 13:20:21

I'd ask if he wanted me to.

(when I was in uni I seriously wouldn't have wanted my mother to visit for that, but if I was upset and she was comforting I might have)

toffeeboffin Mon 19-Sep-16 13:21:02

No.

ParadiseCity Mon 19-Sep-16 13:21:23

Depends how far away, and how he was injured I think.

Tiredandtested Mon 19-Sep-16 13:21:31

No.
He'll be stitched up and back in the bar by the time you arrive.
For surgery I would though.

notquitegrownup2 Mon 19-Sep-16 13:22:09

I'd ask him if I could pop up and cheer him up/take him out for lunch/do anything to help - and then try to respect his answer -and not dash over anyway unless he asked-

SocksRock Mon 19-Sep-16 13:22:18

No. I had my appendix out in Vienna while on my year abroad and my Mum didn't come. If I had been really distressed I guess she might have come, but I wouldn't expect it

notquitegrownup2 Mon 19-Sep-16 13:22:29

Oops - strike through failure

KatieScarlett Mon 19-Sep-16 13:22:30

Only if he asked me to. Or if I offered and he said yes. I doubt he'd even tell me TBH.
He got serious burns while away this summer, enough to necessitate a great many GP and nurse visits and the first I heard was later in the day he got back.
However, they are all different and if he wants his mum, I'd go.

Balletgirlmum Mon 19-Sep-16 13:22:31

It would depend how far away uni was. 20-30 miles yes, 30-40 maybe, 40 plus miles probsbly not unless he was in hospital overnight.

bigTillyMint Mon 19-Sep-16 13:22:47

Has he only just gone (ie first year) and does he want you to visit?

Otherwise no - what tiredandtested said!

ItsAllGoingToBeFine Mon 19-Sep-16 13:22:50

No.

TheFairyCaravan Mon 19-Sep-16 13:23:36

DS2 broke his wrist within his first 6 weeks at uni last year. We didn't go. We offered, he said he didn't need us.

NameChangeDue Mon 19-Sep-16 13:23:55

Yes I would. I'd cook him his favourite food and take it down. Then quickly disappear before I embarrass him!

Purplepicnic Mon 19-Sep-16 13:24:23

No, unless he wanted me to and then I'd probably be 'Really?'

Desmondo2016 Mon 19-Sep-16 13:25:05

My son is at Uni and if it happened to him, I'd be guided by him. There's a vast arrange of scenarios and injuries that could be described as 'having stitches'.

In my case, I don't think my son would want or need me to if it was fairly minor, plus he is only 2 hours away and close to my nearest Ikea, so I'm always more keen to go than I may otherwise would be smile

KatieScarlett Mon 19-Sep-16 13:26:06

Mine is the independent stoic type. If he said he wanted me to, it would scare the crap out of me and I'd be up the motorway in a flash.

Purplebluebird Mon 19-Sep-16 13:27:21

No!!

harderandharder2breathe Mon 19-Sep-16 13:29:14

No!

He can show it off in the bar and impress girls (or boys)

Only visit if he's hospitalised over night and he wants you to or is unconscious and can't say no

jimmyjimjim Mon 19-Sep-16 13:29:45

He was hit in the face by a bottle sad so I assume he'll inform the police.

Thanks all, he's my 1st, I'm obviously being a bit protective.

YelloDraw Mon 19-Sep-16 13:31:29

If he wants you too.

If he doesn't maybe send him a get well card with £20 in it :-)

jimmyjimjim Mon 19-Sep-16 13:34:11

harder, he has a boyfriend, so I hope not gringrin

DustOffYourHighestHopes Mon 19-Sep-16 13:35:42

Depends
- is he a particularly outgoing/confident sort or does he like comfort? You know his personality.
- what's his friendship group like? Does he have a close friend to help him? Eg sometimes you need someone to accompany you home of you've been sedated.

Most uni age men won't ask their mother to come EVEN if they desperately want them to. And unless they were in another country or a flight away, or you are skint, I don't think distance should matter.

Sending some money will help too.

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