Skip to main content
Skip to main navigation
Skip to talk navigation

Active discussions

Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Saved Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Flip

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

1 2 3 4 5 6 ··· 40 41

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Relationships

please help my husband left today

1001 replies

fadingaway · 01/05/2009 19:28

11th August would have been our Silver wedding anniversary.

We have 5 children.

I was at work. My 11 year old rang me in floods of tears. He had taken the two youngest to nursery, left a note saying he would always love them, and just went. Left a note for me saying he's been seeing someone else for two years.

I have nobody in RL, I only had him. The younger children just keep asking for daddy, the older ones are in bits. I would have laid down my life for him. Please help me. I don't think I can cope with this. His phone is off. I don't have a clue where he is.

OP posts:

Report

bronze · 01/05/2009 19:30

I have no useful words. I read this with a stupid look on my face as I couldn't believe someone could be so cruel so finding it hard to make sense. didn't want to read and run though

choufleur · 01/05/2009 19:33

sorry no practical help either. would any of his family be able to get in touch with him?

awful coward though. hope you are coping.

fadingaway · 01/05/2009 19:35

told his dad - his mother died some years ago and his sister lives in California- I have no family or anyone

OP posts:

Idranktheeasterspirits · 01/05/2009 19:35

oh lord what an utter cunt. @Do you not have any family who could be with you?

kalo12 · 01/05/2009 19:35

gosh, did you have any idea? Was this the first you knew about him wanting to leave?

seems like a very immature thing to do with five children to look after and then doesn't answer his phone.

very sorry for you.

Idranktheeasterspirits · 01/05/2009 19:36

oh shit, cross posted i'm so sorry.

fadingaway · 01/05/2009 19:36

I never knew. I thought we were happy. I must be very stupid, obviously.

OP posts:

prawnsmum · 01/05/2009 19:37

Im so sorry I'm not really sure what to say but dont want you to feel alone. I cant believe someone would do that to the person they have been with for so long its cruel and selfish. I will try to check back later I have to see to my DD just now. Im thinking of you x

kalo12 · 01/05/2009 19:37

what a bizarre thing to do

ja9 · 01/05/2009 19:37

so very very sorry...

daftpunk · 01/05/2009 19:37

maybe it's just me...but if my dh of 25 years had just walked out on me, i don't think i'd be posting on mumsnet.

good luck though.

fadingaway · 01/05/2009 19:40

what would you do daft? I have nobody in RL to turn to.

OP posts:

LoveMyGirls · 01/05/2009 19:40

How awful!

How did he possibly have the time to see someone else for 2years without anyone noticing, when you read the note did things click into place?

whooosh · 01/05/2009 19:41

Something similar happened to me only 6 weeks ago and so I understand the pain you are feeling.I however had some very good friends who have helped me through this,despite my not wanting to ask for help in any way,shape or form.

Do you really have NOBODY? Neighbours? Mothers of other kids at school?

I really feel for you and nothing I can say will make it better.Is till feel sick daily and worried for the future but have had to keep strong for my DD.

If you want to find him to talk,can you track him down through workmates?

Wish I could help.

fadingaway · 01/05/2009 19:42

No. I really didn't have a clue.

He used to go out once, sometimes twice a week to play snooker with workmates and I had no reason to suspect that wasn't where he was.

OP posts:

MaryMotherOfCheeses · 01/05/2009 19:43

OP, if it happened to me, I'm not sure I'd have anyone to turn to either, and sometimes you just want to talk to strangers too.

I can't begin to imagine what a shock it must be.

fadingaway · 01/05/2009 19:44

He has taken two weeks off work.

We only moved here recently and there is nobody I know.

OP posts:

dittany · 01/05/2009 19:46

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

MaryMotherOfCheeses · 01/05/2009 19:46

Oh gosh, how far away is the old place? Can someone come to visit for the weekend?

whooosh · 01/05/2009 19:47

How far have you moved from where you were?

LoveMyGirls · 01/05/2009 19:49

Are you older children old enough to look after your younger ones while you go out to look for him, I don't think I'd be able to rest without finding him tbh

drlove8 · 01/05/2009 19:50

fadingaway im so sorry you are going through this. im ed at this 25 years and not a word?, just a note after droping kids at nursery, what a cunt! id be phoneing his work asap to find out where he is.... he's still got 5 kids to see to... .are you ok? x

Don’t want to miss threads like this?

Weekly

Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!

Email address

Log in to update your newsletter preferences.

You've subscribed!

drlove8 · 01/05/2009 19:52

do you have any phone numbers for friends in your old area? perhaps they could come to you for a few days?

thesilverlining · 01/05/2009 19:54

get across to the my husband left me on sunday thread - we've got a lovely little support network going on there - you'll be amazed how many twunts are out there this past couple months!!! Let us help x

kalo12 · 01/05/2009 19:55

fadingaway - how do you feel?

Flip

1 2 3 4 5 6 ··· 40 41

Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

This thread is not accepting new messages.