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Ayeok ·
28/10/2016 16:45
Woo first post on a new thread 
Is he due to have the kids at yours tomorrow? What are the logistics of him seeing them?
I'm glad you cancelled the spa day, I think it would have eaten you up inside if you'd gone and you have enough to cope with at the moment. Ugh, he's a bastard. You were clearly telling him no, even if you weren't, he has no right to touch you without your consent. 
Ayeok ·
28/10/2016 16:56
Oh god don't give me his number, I'll scream abuse at the bastard til I've lost my voice, then give him evil phone calls every hour on the hour for the next month just to freak him out
Ayeok ·
28/10/2016 17:10
Thanks Giddy
Mind you, if you ever really want to unleash hell all you need to do is tell us where he lives I might be too far away to actually throttle him, but I reckon he'd get fed up of 700 pizza deliveries and 450 taxis a day 
He'd really be scared with the wrath of the Capettes unleashed on him
skyyequake ·
28/10/2016 17:19
I'm fine Capes! I'm worried about you! You are so strong but there is only so much weight you can carry on your shoulders. You need to find some way to share the load, or offload in a safe environment. For me, it's a way to touch base each week, to put a pause on life to consider my feelings and his behaviours and learn how to deal with them without outside distractions.
He has made you numb Capes, you are just rolling with the punches at the moment, putting up boundaries but without letting yourself have perfectly natural human emotions. You are too used to this. One foot in front of the other works for the short-term but in the long-term you need to be able to heal, and you can only heal by acknowledging that you are hurt.
Abuse is about more than being a twat, he's gotten inside your head, he's twisted your memories, your emotions and even your very beliefs to fit what he wants and what he thinks should be. It takes more than just an "enough" moment to undo that. It is about unravelling the true you, from the you that has come into existence to appease him. It is a hard hard task, but it is so much easier when you have help, when you have validation from others that what he has done, and is continuing to do, is not okay.
I hope you're feeling ok, and that you find a way past this horrible situation that you're in
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Ayeok ·
28/10/2016 17:36
Skyye you're an evil genius! May I suggest adding the sodding Paw Patrol one to it too? And Mickey Mouse. He'd be begging for it to stop within an hour I love a good high five Giddy and I'm nearly 35
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