Hi WhyMe, so glad your health has improved, welcome, no, you are not on your own with having a "crash", it's just a natural part of dealing with an ongoing stressful situation.
I was thinking about this yesterday, the problem is that divorce is such a long, drawn out process, with a bereavement it's so sad, and you have the funeral and a tiny bit of closure happens then, and you have the time after to grieve and process your memories and thoughts about the person and their influence and involvement in your life. My dear mum died two weeks after my youngest son was born, after a six month battle with breast cancer, and that was a hard burden to bear, but she saw my child before she died, and I had him to care for to help deal with my grief.
But in divorce, the ex has actively chosen to hurt and deceive us, and does so for months and years in some cases, and the pain is ongoing, as more revelations and active inconsiderate behaviour comes to the fore.
Now, I realise that a lot of people are dealing with a lot worse shit in some cases, and don't want to come across like a self pitying individual, but it is so hard, some days isn't it?
I am in a dip at the moment, but I will come back up again, and the best revenge is a life lived well, it just seems beyond my reach at the moment.
Lots of love to everyone , Green, I love the new thread, keep it up girl!