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Bromance getting out of hand?

(182 Posts)
optimism4 Sun 09-Mar-14 11:00:16

My dp friend treated him to a weekend away for his birthday. One night turned into 3 days when this friend booked it. It was supposed to be a night in newcastle with all the boys but when dp arrived at airport it was just the two of them and friend surprised him by letting him know at boarding that they were going abroad!

Dp is a bit annoyed as baby is on the way and if he HAD to go somewhere, he didn't want to be gone far or for long.

This friend of his is not very accepting of me and sort of pretends I don't exist- I'm never included but this, to me, is a piss take.

Would anyone else feel the same? My family think this friend needs to find a gf and stop treating my dp like one!

They're back tonight and I don't know how to play this...

CogitoErgoSometimes Sun 09-Mar-14 11:03:04

Wait a minute.... if DP thought he was going for a night out in Newcastle how come he had his passport on him?

JeanSeberg Sun 09-Mar-14 11:04:54

Bit strange - had he told your dp to bring his passport with him?

Ultimately though it's your dp's choice what he does, you can't blame it on the friend.

How much time do they spend together?

Yep passport was my firsg query.
I suspect theres more to this

Sorry but he went for what he ttold you was a lads weekend which ended in him going abroad with one otherpperson. Surely there's only one interpretation of that

Lweji Sun 09-Mar-14 11:07:15

Why did he go, then?

CogitoErgoSometimes Sun 09-Mar-14 11:07:49

Do we think... perhaps.... being the cynical old vipers that we are.... the 'surprise trip abroad' and feigned annoyance was all a bit of a cover-up for something that they'd cooked up between them in advance and kept quiet knowing you'd never agree if they'd been honest?.... hmm

CogitoErgoSometimes Sun 09-Mar-14 11:08:33

Will you be meeting them at the airport OP?

optimism4 Sun 09-Mar-14 11:09:36

Newcastle flights are cheaper than train do the plan was always to fly hence passport. Dp is just too polite to say no.

optimism4 Sun 09-Mar-14 11:10:25

No I won't be going to the airport.

CogitoErgoSometimes Sun 09-Mar-14 11:11:08

DP is clearly still waiting on a spine transplant.... hmm

MadBusLady Sun 09-Mar-14 11:11:17

Flying from where? Didn't know you needed a passport on internal UK flights.

GoodEggy Sun 09-Mar-14 11:12:20

Do you need your passport for domestic flights?

Lweji Sun 09-Mar-14 11:12:21

You need ID.

optimism4 Sun 09-Mar-14 11:14:07

And dp genuinely didn't know. He had no euros and has a really bad toothache before leabing and made enquiries as to getting treatment in newcastle if it worsened. My issue is not with dp but with his friend- he seems obsessed!

CogitoErgoSometimes Sun 09-Mar-14 11:14:27

Any clues where this 'abroad' was? Prague? Brussels? The grubby fleshpots of the Hamburg Reeperbahn? confused

Catsmamma Sun 09-Mar-14 11:14:55

passports are generally used for id even for internal flights.

and I'd be scrutinising bank accounts....imo your dp knew fine what was planned but just didn't want n argument with you about it

friend says he'll suck up the blame, so dp gets his jaunt and gets to look the good guy cos he'd never have gone if only he'd known

EasyCompadre Sun 09-Mar-14 11:15:18

Sounds to me like they were flying to Newcastle, much easier than driving or train if its a long way.

I would certainly not be very happy about the extension from one night to 3, DP should have nipped it in the bud there and then and insisted on one night only, that would probably have halted the travelling abroad plans in its tracks. I do know how it feels to have a DP with very involved friends though, it can be a pain in the arse at times!

DH had one of these when I first met him. He hated me, properly loathed me simply because his BFF loved me.
He was smart enough never to fully show his hand or be rude to my face because I would have torn his off or say anything DH could seriously object to. It was more insidious, things like extending boys trips as above, guilt tripping DH, hanging around our house all weekend suggesting trips to the pub (I don't drink), tagging along to any social event we were invited to...
He had a horrible attitude towards women in general despite having a live in girlfriend and tried everything to split us up.
DH cottoned on eventually and went NC.
Last I heard he was out and proud.

Lweji Sun 09-Mar-14 11:18:50

Last I heard he was out and proud.

That was my first thought.

It may not be it, but still...

BranchingOut Sun 09-Mar-14 11:19:46

That is a bit odd. Have a serious chat with him when he gets back about how he is going to handle things once the baby arrives.

JeanSeberg Sun 09-Mar-14 11:21:13

How come you don't know what country they've gone to? Has he not rung or texted you?

This all sounds very odd.

Yes you need photo ID for internal flights but the op said he'd gone abroad.

JuniperHeartwand Sun 09-Mar-14 11:21:48

So has your DP actually gone along with it, getting on the plane? Mine wouldn't. He has a strong enough mind of his own to say no, and would consider the needs of his family. Unbelievable. If this is affecting your relationship your DPs friend isn't the main problem here if your DP is enabling this.

Jollyphonics Sun 09-Mar-14 11:21:59

Sorry, not related to topic, but can someone tell me what NC means? I keep seeing it in posts on here.

Lweji Sun 09-Mar-14 11:22:34

No contact.

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