Pregnancy after infertility III

[stealthbanana]

Spotting, cramping, "is my clearblue digi accurate?",* viability scans, measuring behind, measuring ahead, high hcg, low hcg, morning sickness, lack of morning sickness, anomaly scans....

That's right, folks, it's the place where scanxiety really means something, where the feeling like you're always going to be on the wrong side of statistics nevers go away, and where moments of sheer terror are par for the course ...it's pregnancy after infertility.

Join if you want to hang out with a supportive group of women across all different stages of pregnancy who can't believe they got here and are hoping like hell its all going to be ok.

Previous thread here:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/2679146-Pregnancy-after-infertility-II

*hint for newbies: it's not

Thanks Steve

Thanks Steve.... stupid auto correct

Thanks Stealth even!!!

Thank you Stealth :)

Hi Steve!
Just checking in. Good luck today icy. If there was ever a time you needed a stiff drink...

Still stalking this thread and love hearing all the good scan news!

I don't feel qualified to give advice and I hate to think I'm coming across as the voice of doom... But what I would say is to never feel worried about bothering the midwife or consultant if there is something that concerns you. My heart jumped Sammy when I read your posts as I started with feeling bunged up and crampy, and it turned out it was early labour . So I'm just saying don't worry about badgering the midwives because they can help figure what's serious and what's not.

Thanks stealth

Thanks stealth.

Genghis. It's stopped again, it was a tiny amount. I bet normal people wouldn't even notice because it's like small threads. Of course we do though.

I've woke up today feeling a bit nauseous. I've also had cramps but they've been pretty constant all the way through. I was just thinking I wouldn't even know how to get in touch with my midwife. Have you been given a number or anything like that?

Icy. Good luck with your scan. I hope all goes well for you.

I've got an appointment at 6pm to see a midwife. Only because I was a blubbering mess on the phone. I think they think I'm worrying unnecessarily. Although the whole attitude changed when I said it was MCDA twins and therefore high risk.

yeyyy new thread.

Thanks Steve! And Stealth.

sammy glad you have an appointment. Remind me what does MCDA mean?

Waves at blueroses, big hug to you lovely lady. Xxxxx

Monochorionic diamniotic - basically one placenta but two separate sacs. Xx

Waddles in and waves to all

Sammy - always go to hospital or see mw if any doubts spotting cramps etc

You are not wasting their time 💐

Hope everything goes ok Sammy and they can put your mind at rest.

Icy, good luck with the scan. I had mine on Wednesday and was absolutely terrified and crying before they even started but it all turned out OK.

Thanks for all the replies about the harmony test I'm booked in for 2 weeks tomorrow. My cyclizine doesn't seem to be doing a lot for my nausea now it's pretty constant all the time. Going to register with the midwife this afternoon.

Thanks for the new thread stealth.
Loving the scans on the other thread!

Sammy hope everything is OK x

Stealth glad stealthini is doing well. How big is your bump now?

I'm 25.1 weeks and belly is still pretty small I think. Baby has had a shuffle and has gone from movements in my pubic bone to now around belly button. Hopefully that means he's growing well too.

Still being sick

Hi to all the newbies and hope everyone else is doing well.

Thank you for the welcomes.

Glad to see your scan went well, Blondes! Great pictures. :)

Hope to see good news from you, Icy.

My own scanxiety has kicked in. It's in 2 weeks time. Frustrated with myself that I can't relax, but the retest a week on from OTD I did yesterday (clinic cassette type one) was still pretty faint. Did 2 others and they were too. I wasn't obsessive last time but the lines were stronger. I've convinced myself it is bad news. It should be strong at this point. (22dpo yesterday/5w). Someone tell me darkness isn't a reliable indicator?? :( All the (admittedly mild) symptoms I had are gone too. Now I understand people saying they wish the sickness would start.

Thanks for the thread Stealth! Love the intro!

Icy, good luck for today. Fingers crossed for you!

Sammy, echoing what everyone else has said. I think its better to contact the midwife than not, and I'm glad you have an appointment later to set your mind at rest.

I hope you are ok, Blueroses xx

Lucie, good luck with the midwife this afternoon.

Friends, I havent been given a number for the midwife or anything. I've just assumed that I should contact my GP surgery and ask for her number if I have any issues. I think I'll ask at my appointment Tuesday.

Mist, sorry to hear you're a bit stressed out. Its completely understandable though, and the wait for the scans seems interminable! I'm not sure what to suggest, re: the tests. Have you tried any other HPTs or just the ones from your clinic? Do you know how sensitive they are?

Hope everyone else is ok!

thanks for replying MPP81. Tried supermarket ones which I think were 15. Clinic's are 25 mIU/ml (with a little measuring dropper). Haven't bought expensive branded ones or digis despite advice from people to try, think digi will make me worry more, and needing very sensitive ones seems counter-intuitive (HCG shouldn't be low). I need to try to keep busy! Taking tablets 3x a day and pessaries at night doesn't help me to keep my mind off it :(

I'll try not to go on and on here unless something new happens, but good to be in a place where people understand the worry. Thank you x

So pleased u posted new thread stealth!! I have t been on for agaes so just happened to see it xxx welcome to newbies and hi to everyone else xx

In the waiting room now. I feel like a bit of a fraud as everyone else here is heavily pregnant. I'm worried they're going to mark me down as a time waster.... tbh I hope I'm being a time waster. This isn't going to get any easier as time goes on is it?

Thanks everyone - it was good. The embryo is just over 1cm, hasn't split (phew) and had a heartbeat. Looks a bit like a slug. Relieved! Another reassurance scan in a fortnight and then they'll pass me through to normal services I think.

sammy hope you get on okay - and yes - really hope you do "waste their time". Nothing wrong with being pushy, ffs we've been through so much shit. Let other people look and think what they want, you'll never see them again.

icy excellent news on your scan. 1cm sounds very healthy indeed. You'll be amazed by how much has changed re the slug like appearance at the next scan. Take a deep breath and let the scanxiety cycle start all over again....

sammy hope everything goes ok at your appointment. Definitely do not feel like a time waster and don't worry about other people! Who cares. It's stressful enough without having to worry about other randoms. And no it doesn't get easier DH and just had a delightful conversation about the potential for stillbirth although I will say that being able to feel movement is quite good for reducing somewhat the day to day mental freak outs.

vixx sorry you're still being sick - me too. Bump is, unbelievably given my Giant Baby, still quite small. It's definitely there, but you still don't really notice it in a suit jacket, blouse and jeans. I'm not really sure where this monster baby is hiding, but I guess he's in there somewhere!

lucie ditto on feeling sick. I didn't really find cyclizine did much for me on the nausea front either, it just wiped me out. Metoclopramide is better but I do still feel nauseous a lot. Am just used to it now (sad). Definitely ask for a different drug, there are lots and it's all individual as to how we react to them.

mist feel free to wibble on as much as you like on these threads. We all have our moments of abject terror - that's what we're all here for as fellow barrens, to provide a properly sympathetic ear & send lots of good luck vibes your way. (Along with icy's glitter shit.) And if it is bad news, it's ok to post about that too. God knows we all know life isn't all baby dust and happy endings.

Icy - so pleased your scan went well.

They didn't scan me or listen to the babies. They said at this stage there's nothing they can do even if it was the worst case. She thinks it's probably ligaments but to come straight back if I start bleeding. I don't feel that reassured but accept that there's nothing they can do.
I can't stop crying... the fear has really got me tonight. Xx

Oh sammy. I can't believe they didn't scan you. What twats. How hard is it to pull out a Doppler, or an ultrasound and some freezing cold jelly? Twats. It makes me so furious that "there's nothing we can do" is an acceptable reason to deny diagnostic scans to pregnant women. I bet if men had to walk around carrying potentially miscarried foetuses they'd sort it out sharpish. (Not that I don't think everything is just fine with your twosome, but ffs - absolutely dreadful on the part of your HCPs.)

Is a private scan an option?

It would be an option, but seems a bit silly when we have a scan every 2 weeks.
I was surprised that they didn't do anything to reassure me... we waited an hour too :(
I'm so exhausted I'm off to bed, hopefully things will seem better in the morning. Xx

Can I just go to sleep now until my next scan?

Get some rest. When is your next scan?