To only share my bed with DH

(159 Posts)
rookiemere Mon 26-Sep-16 05:19:02

So for various reasons I am in a hotel room on my own as it is a family occasion and DH couldnt come as needed to stay at home with DS.

My cousin who I love dearly wanted to share for one night. I said sure as long as I can swap to a twin or get an extra bed added. Thankfully we've managed to get an extra bed so it will be fine. But she seemed to act like it was kind of weird that I would not sleep in the same bed then her sister made a remark about it as well.

AIBU ? To be honest I don't even enjoy sharing that much with DH we are both light sleepers and wake each other up going to the loo, plus I toss and turn a lot.

MrsTerryPratchett Mon 26-Sep-16 05:24:04

I fucking hate sharing beds with anyone but DH. At a push, DD! Even sharing rooms actually. I'll add my mum for sharing rooms but no one else!

rookiemere Mon 26-Sep-16 05:28:18

Is it a cultural thing maybe ? My cousins are American I am British.

MrsTerryPratchett Mon 26-Sep-16 05:35:14

Canadians all seem to want share rooms. <shudder>

Motherfuckers Mon 26-Sep-16 05:41:08

I am British, I would share a bed. I think it is a bit weird not to tbh.

steff13 Mon 26-Sep-16 05:47:26

I think it's odd not to share. If it were me, I'd think you thought there was something wrong with me, like I'm unclean or something.

That's assuming it's a King or Queen size bed, and you would both be wearing pajamas.

TheDrsDocMartens Mon 26-Sep-16 05:47:29

I don't like to share a bed . A room with my dh & kids that's it.

rookiemere Mon 26-Sep-16 05:56:57

It's a king sized bed and we both have night attire.
I just wouldn't sleep well. Sometimes I wake in the night and I like to change sleeping side or if I have the bed to myself, roll over to the lovely cool bit. I hate being impolite but sleep is one of the few areas where I would'nt compromise.

ChocolateJam Mon 26-Sep-16 05:58:48

Many years ago, before I got married, I shared a bed with my mum for two nights and it was weird... I'm with you op, really prefer not to share a bed with anyone other than DH and occasionally DD. I'm South African.

rookiemere Mon 26-Sep-16 06:01:41

Well DH and DS are worse than me. Last year on sports tour they were allocated a double. DS aged 9 at the time refused to share with DH so they had to fashion duvets on the floor into a bed for him.

itlypocerka Mon 26-Sep-16 06:20:44

Yanbu at all.

PoldarksBreeches Mon 26-Sep-16 06:20:48

I can't sleep with anyone else in the bed (even ds, only time I can do it is in a king size with separate duvets) so no I wouldn't share a bed with anyone. I'd honestly rather sleep on the floor. I'd be uncomfortable and hardly sleep but more comfortable than sharing.
People without sleep issues don't get this, but insomnia is real and there is nothing more frustrating than lying in a bed knowing you won't sleep.

ProppedUp Mon 26-Sep-16 06:21:46

I think I would have been all confused at sharing a room, and def about sharing the bed. I guess it depends on how close you are to your cousin! But I am not so close to any of them for that. I feel I've reached an age where sleepovers are no longer a regular activity for me.

Fine to share with DH and DCs, generally grin

Alorsmum Mon 26-Sep-16 06:24:08

No way could I sleep in a shared bed nowadays! I also have insomnia
I would have just laughed it off and said oh DH says I am horrible to sleep with and I toss and turn and have insomnia.... Really... You don't want to share with me.... We'll need another bed

greenfolder Mon 26-Sep-16 06:25:47

Yanbu. I wouldn't unless there was no choice. I would just spend the night staring at the ceiling. I struggle to sleep in hotels normally

NavyandWhite Mon 26-Sep-16 07:14:41

Depends. Friend I've known all my life - no problem but any other person I wouldn't like but wouldn't insist on a twin room. Top and tail maybe.

NavyandWhite Mon 26-Sep-16 07:16:50

A story DH told me years ago about one of his friends that shared a bed on a walking holiday with someone he knew who was woken up in the middle of the night to the friend cracking one off! Grim.

PurpleDaisies Mon 26-Sep-16 07:19:54

I've shared a bed with close female friends and would happily do it again. We're a big group and all meet up there are enough bed spaces if some of us share doubles. I wouldn't share with a male friend, and I'm not sure I'd share with a random cousin I didn't know very well.

witsender Mon 26-Sep-16 07:20:29

I would hate it, and would do whatever I could not to. Apart from.the kids, love that.

DollyBarton Mon 26-Sep-16 07:23:12

I like my own bed but share with a sibling or friend when necessary. Mobil deal.

OhhBetty Mon 26-Sep-16 07:26:06

It's just one night of your life. Yabu.

That1950sMum Mon 26-Sep-16 07:26:35

God No!!

I'm not that thrilled about sharing with DH, but definitely wouldn't want to with anyone else!!

NicknameUsed Mon 26-Sep-16 07:31:43

"I am British, I would share a bed. I think it is a bit weird not to tbh."

I don't think it is weird, not at all. Some people just don't like having their space invaded. I wouldn't want to share with anyone other than OH or DD.

I just can't sleep if sharing a bed with someone I am not very close to, and I would hate to share a bathroom. I have IBS so it can make things quite awkward.

EdmundCleverClogs Mon 26-Sep-16 07:41:40

No, yanbu. I hate sharing a bed! Although I usually sleep quite nicely on my side, I can't fully relax with some next to me (with my partner, I just know he will wake me up snoring at some point so I wake myself up in anticipation). I could barely share a room with another person, my personal space has a 20ft diameter grin.

Northernpowerhouse Mon 26-Sep-16 07:52:19

YANBU. I really don't like sharing with anyone other than a DP or DH (don't have one right now!!)
One of the difficulties I encountered about being single again in my fifties was that some female friends would expect to share on holidays or weekends away. This was mainly to save money. Having spent a couple of virtually sleepless nights I now just say no sharing and pay up for my own room. By the way, there's nothing wrong with my friends, they're lovely!!

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