DD aged 4 sharing parents' bedroom

[MarchelineWhatNot]

We live in a tiny 2 up 2 down house which we rent from a private landlord. Our son has his own room and myself, DH & DD share the other bedroom. DD is always asking for her own room and I feel really sorry for her as I know she would keep it really nice and tidy.

Unfortunately, we cannot afford to move. We are stretched to the limit financially and I already commute 90 mins both ways (3 hours per day) for work so moving further out of the city is just not an option. We have pets as well so can't move into a flat.

So we're stuck. But I feel really sad for DD. Is it so bad for her to share our room? Is anybody else in this situation and if so, how do you handle it?

Thanks.

[Buggers]

How old is your son?

[MarchelineWhatNot]

DS is 11.

[seeyounearertime]

why arent the children in one room and the adults in the other?

[formerbabe]

Do you have 2 reception rooms downstairs? If so could you turn one into your bedroom and your dd could have your current one?

[PotteringAlong]

You need a long term plan. 4 is fine; 14 is not going to work.

[KingJoffreyLikesJaffaCakes]

Spilt the biggest room in half with bookcases?

Is that an option?

[seeyounearertime]

have you thought about changing one of the downstirs room sinto a bedroom for you and OH?
but of a ball ache but you can get decent pull out beds from Ikea.

[PPie10]

Many, many people don't have the luxury of each child having their own room. There's nothing bad about it and also nothing to feel guilty about. It is just what it is. Your DD won't be scarred in anyway. But why aren't the kids sharing and you and DH in your own room?

[Buggers]

Oh his a bit old to share then, you haven't got a dining room to turn into a room or anything like that?

[MarchelineWhatNot]

We only have a lounge room and kitchen downstairs. And the lounge room is tiny. As is the kitchen, we can't even fit a table in it.

[HermioneJeanGranger]

Can you not divide DS's room in two with curtains?

[MarchelineWhatNot]

DS's room is - again - tiny. They would have to have bunk beds.

[ChicRock]

It's borderline at the point where it's no longer fair or doable.

What are your plans for when she's 8, 12, 16?

My first thought is get rid of the pets - as that's one of the reasons you've given for not being able to move.

[PotteringAlong]

Sofa bed in the lounge for you and DH?

[katemiddletonsnudeheels]

I think you need to have a sofa bed downstairs for you and your husband. I appreciate its not ideal but it can't be ideal at the moment either.

[PotteringAlong]

And yes; get rid of the pets. You can't afford them apart from anything else.

[formerbabe]

Could you and your dh have your son's room and your dd and ds share your current room with room dividers?

[RubyGates]

Can you use a sofa bed in the living room for you and DH? You could keep your clothes storage in the double bedroom but it would free-up most of it for your DD.

[witsender]

It is ok at the mo, but not long term. Either get a sofa bed or lose the pets I'm afraid.

[MarchelineWhatNot]

The kids would be devastated if we got rid of our pets, we've had them for years.

I don't have a long-term plan. I always hoped we might buy somewhere, but that's never gonna happen.

[witsender]

Or swap rooms.

[Chippednailvarnishing]

What's wrong with bunk beds? It got to better than a child sharing with her parents.

[MarchelineWhatNot]

Basically all the rooms are tiny.

[19lottie82]

The kids may be devastated yes, but what happens when your DD hits puberty and needs privacy? She can't go on sharing a room with her parents. That's more important than pets I'm afraid.

[CherishFindensRulerOfDeath]

Is doing something creative with bunks and curtain an option? Something along these lines?