WIBU to just wash the fucking bear?

(175 Posts)
NoCapes Sun 10-Apr-16 14:42:08

DD has a comfort blanket/bear thing
She has slept with it every night since we took her dummy away, around 11/12 months-ish, she sucks on it so now the poor fucker has no legs and is in a right old state

She also refuses to let me wash him
I have done against her wishes a few times and she has literally sat and watched him spin around the washing machine crying until he came out, then not slept properly for around 3/4 nights afterwards
So I gave up and let her crack on
He hasn't been in the wash for a few years now blush

Now the issue is- He fucking stinks!
Really really stinks! If the heating has been on and you go in her room you can smell him! It's grim

Now DD has recently turned 5, I asked her if I could wash bear so he was fancy for her birthday - she said no so I didn't
Now I'm changing the bedding today, and DD isn't here, would I be a heartless cow if Bear accidentally got tangled up in the bedding and had a wash?
I fear it's a matter of health and safety at this point?

BIWI Sun 10-Apr-16 14:42:50

Just wash it.

5BlueHydrangea Sun 10-Apr-16 14:43:08

Just do it..

TheFlyingFauxPas Sun 10-Apr-16 14:43:39

Maybe she'll be better if she doesn't witness the washing machine treatment. 😞

LucyInTheSkyWithDonuts Sun 10-Apr-16 14:43:43

Get it in the wash. A bear that stinks is a bit grim....

Sleepingbunnies Sun 10-Apr-16 14:43:59

Do it!

Cheby Sun 10-Apr-16 14:44:35

Grim. Definitely wash it.

ThoughtfulPenny Sun 10-Apr-16 14:45:30

Got to be done, better to do it while she isn't there and not mention it.

Imnotaslimjim Sun 10-Apr-16 14:45:58

Go for it. Get it washed a dried before she's home and I doubt she'll notice!

Also, can you get hold of a second one? Let her cuddle both for a while so they both smell like her, then take one to wash, and swap them at intervals so she always has a clean one

PPie10 Sun 10-Apr-16 14:48:16

You have to wash it if it stinks. I thought you were talking about a tiny tot here. She's 5yo! Well old enough to understand that it smells and needs a wash

PurpleDaisies Sun 10-Apr-16 14:48:52

I'm not really sure why you're asking your 5 year old for permission to wash the bear rather than just doing it. A stinking bear is not a nice toy. For her benefit, just do it.

Haudyerwheesht Sun 10-Apr-16 14:49:28

Oh god I'd have washed it long ago

RudeElf Sun 10-Apr-16 14:49:56

Wash it at night. My mum used to sneak my teddy away at night and wash him, tumble dry him and shove him back in my bed for the morning.

Or you could engineer and orange juice accident where teddy had to get washed.

Oooblimey Sun 10-Apr-16 14:51:01

I've now got "wash the bear" going round in my head to the tune of "kiss the girl" from Little Mermaid!
Wash da bear!!

SavoyCabbage Sun 10-Apr-16 14:58:04

I'd be washing the stinking bear of a five year old. If she was a toddler who couldn't understand why it was different, then maybe I'd wait.

SouthWesterlyWinds Sun 10-Apr-16 15:00:33

What does the comfort stink bear look like? Wash it and get a back up so it can get semi stinky before the next wash. Post a pic - folks on here are usually good at finding back up toys.

Muskey Sun 10-Apr-16 15:02:37

Please wash it. I used to wait until dd was asleep take it off her have it washed and dried before she woke up. I used to do this once a month whether the bear needed it or not

Arfarfanarf Sun 10-Apr-16 15:04:59

Just wash it. Think of the germs that must be on a smelly, sucked and chewed toy that hasnt been washed in years! It'll be a flourishing ecosystem!

somewheresomehow Sun 10-Apr-16 15:05:22

Put it in a pillow case just encase he falls apart while having a spin grin

TheMasterMurderedMargarita Sun 10-Apr-16 15:06:17

Wash the bear.
DD still has a favourite bear - problem is even when he gets washed within a few days he is back to his smelly old self. To be fair he doesn't stink but he isn't exactly what you'd call fragrant.

BaronessBomburst Sun 10-Apr-16 15:06:35

Just wash it!
But on a gentle wash and in a net bag. DM washed my blue rabbit and it disintegrated. I was utterly distraught. despite being about 15

dudsville Sun 10-Apr-16 15:08:38

Not only wash it now but also get in to a weekly routine.

LagartijaNick Sun 10-Apr-16 15:08:38

Ha! I've got wash-the-bear in my head Lord of the Flies kill-the-pig-style. On a bit of a washing spree myself today.

bornwithaplasticspoon Sun 10-Apr-16 15:08:53

I wouldn't sneak it away. I'd explain that he needs regular washing to keep him fresh. Maybe she'd enjoy washing him by hand, or it could go in the bath with her?

NoCapes Sun 10-Apr-16 15:10:18

Ok I hear you I'm BU to have not washed him before now
He's going in
And yes she will definitely know

The duplicate idea is a no-go by the way, Bear started out as a twin, DS had the other which he completely rejected (I was his comfort blanket evidently <rolls eyes>) but DD always favoured one
And now because she's sucked him so much he is unrecognisable from the Bear he started life as, there's no way I could pass a brand new one off as him

I feel the need to put a disclaimer here that I am a normal clean person and the rest of the house is washed regularly
But Bear bathing was always too traumatic...I am so weak aren't I

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