To be angry with disrespectful women!

(248 Posts)
gotnotimeforthat Fri 02-May-14 15:10:54

I'm talking about the women that know a guy is in a relationship yet continue to hit on him or upon hearing he has a girlfriend out right says 'I'm only up for a shag anyway, am I wasting my time?' Handing yourself on a plate like that to someone with a girlfriend and child is just low.

I obviously can't speak for all women but i wouldn't dream of hitting on somebody if they was in a relationship. I find it so disrespectful!

This happens quite a lot with my partner and it really angers me.

AIBU to let this bother me as much as it does? The woman I mentioned above might of got a peice of my mind..

FreudiansSlipper Fri 02-May-14 15:12:38

well some men and woman always want what someone else has got

but all the time, maybe it is the signals he is giving off

YoureBeingASillyBilly Fri 02-May-14 15:12:53

I'd wonder what sort of women he keeps surrounding himself with and why if this keeps happening. Or even if it is actually happening. Do you witness it or does he tell you?

CoffeeTea103 Fri 02-May-14 15:12:59

What is your partners reaction when this happens?

CluelessCrapParent Fri 02-May-14 15:14:26

Should you not be directing your anger at your man?

YoureBeingASillyBilly Fri 02-May-14 15:16:24

Why clueless?

Spottybra Fri 02-May-14 15:17:51

You can always use my line - how many std's am I at risk from with you?

Usually throws them for awhile.

gotnotimeforthat Fri 02-May-14 15:18:22

He's quite friendly. But he makes it clear he is spoken for.

It's happened in front of me too. This Isn't just a problem with him men are the same with me too which i find equally disrespectful.

FreeSpirit89 Fri 02-May-14 15:19:19

Different strokes for different folks. Some people get down like that, I know a married couple who both have affairs, they know about them too.

But I'd be more concerned why it keeps happening to your dh

TereseaGreen Fri 02-May-14 15:19:24

Some people have the morals of stray alley cats.
Try not to surround yourselves with these type of people.
Apologies to any cats who are upset by my analogy.

YoureBeingASillyBilly Fri 02-May-14 15:19:37

Well then you two are hanging around with the wrong people. Change your pub.

Why is the man getting the blame for the attention here by the posters? Would you be blaming a woman?

HecatePropylaea Fri 02-May-14 15:24:30

In what environment is this happening? One where it is normal and reasonably expected that many people are available for sex? Eg clubbing or late night in trendy pubs or something? Its just i cant imagine it happening in tesco or at a meeting of the ferret fanciers so perhaps some consideration should be given to the expectations that are standard in the places this is happening in?

gotnotimeforthat Fri 02-May-14 15:25:06

These are women in shops and restaurants. He always pulls in tesco..
And one was a new temp at his workplace. He told her he was in a relationship and she then overstepped the line so I gave her a phone call.

My partner and I don't hide things from each other so he tells me things like this. I would of been pretty pissed if I found out the woman at work had been throwing herself at him for months without him mentioning it. With all cards on the table there is nothing to hide.

Tvseemstobemyhobby Fri 02-May-14 15:26:42

Just realised me and t'other 'arf are obviously well past it and now minging as nobody tries it on with us!!!

TondelayoSchwarzkopf Fri 02-May-14 15:27:24

Blimey - is he ridiculously hot? or a bit of a bullshitter

Tvseemstobemyhobby Fri 02-May-14 15:28:05

What did you say when you gave her a phone call ?

Thumbwitch Fri 02-May-14 15:28:34

YANBU but you should have widened your title to include disrespectful men, both the ones in relationships who hit on other women, and ones who try to hit on women already in relationships.

Disrespectful people, in other words.

Trouble is, it's all a bit "alpha male, alpha female" bollocks - we should be above and beyond all that, we're not still bloody chimps ffs! - but some people just aren't.

FrigginRexManningDay Fri 02-May-14 15:29:40

Just say no, no need to go in all Hands off . I will demonstrate.

Him..Fancy a shag
Me...No

YoureBeingASillyBilly Fri 02-May-14 15:29:52

If it's happening in tesco and restaurants then there must be something about him that gives out an "i'm up for it vibe" (unless you live on love island grin)

I've had maybe two men do the "just lose the boyfriend and me and you can get together" thing in my life and i've been out plenty. They were both in a pub.

WorraLiberty Fri 02-May-14 15:31:58

He told her he was in a relationship and she then overstepped the line so I gave her a phone call.

WTF?

Why don't you just piss up his leg and mark your territory?

I'm quite sure he's able to fend all these women off without the need for a phone call from you shock

FreudiansSlipper Fri 02-May-14 15:32:16

you called her

wtf he is loving this women fighting over him why bother telling you

we have all been hit on do we all run home and tell our partners no because it means nothing

YoureBeingASillyBilly Fri 02-May-14 15:34:12

"you called her

wtf he is loving this women fighting over him why bother telling you"

^^yup

crazyspaniel Fri 02-May-14 15:34:12

You sound deranged, phoning up your husband's colleague. Did you threaten to scratch her eyes out? I bet you are the laughing stock of his office.

gotnotimeforthat Fri 02-May-14 15:34:15

Tvseems

He works in a place full of 40+ year old men. So when a new 24 year old girl starts work she made a beeline for the youngest guy there my partner 24.

I don't think it is necessarily the way he looks because men can be like that with me too and I am not what I would say seriously good looking.
It seems to be a common problem amongst people I know.

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