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to not understand why so many people are 'proud' of babies rolling over, crawling, walking etc?

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HiggsBoson Sun 27-Jan-13 21:21:21

Unimportant bollocks I know, but humor me smile

I have a 3yo DD. Lately I'm noticing more and more people on facebook and in general conversation going on about how very proud they are that "DS rolled over" or "DD crawled"

As for toileting hmm

I've always felt that pride is an ugly thing and hand on heart I have never been proud of DD Crawling, walking or taking a shit. I mean, these are human bodily functions and surely no reflection on your offspring's intelligence or your capability as a parent? So what's to be proud of?

Sure - when DD is a little older and does something for someone else of her own volition as an act of kindness, then yes, I might be proud of that. If she helps people and achieves happiness for herself and others then I might also be proud of her for that. But rolling? Nah.

Am I being a twat?

MakeHayNotStraw Sun 27-Jan-13 22:17:04

But surely it's not daft to be proud of the effort that's gone in to learning to roll over? Babies I have seen put more effort into practising rolling than I do into most things....

AllYoursBabooshka Sun 27-Jan-13 22:17:19

TBH I find the whole competitive apathy thing (is this new?) and dreary as competitive boasting when it comes to other parents.

"Lookit me, aren't I cool? I couldn't give less of a shit and you're all so precious."

Yea, m'kay.

I was very proud of DSs miles stones, I found it wonderful watching him figure out how to do things he couldn't before. Ugly me.

AllYoursBabooshka Sun 27-Jan-13 22:17:41

As dreary.

MakeHayNotStraw Sun 27-Jan-13 22:18:36

Totally agree, Babooshka.

usualsuspect Sun 27-Jan-13 22:19:28

Don't be so bloody miserable.

MrsDeVere Sun 27-Jan-13 22:19:46

YABU
There are a fuck load off things worse than being proud of your baby for doing perfectly everyday things.

It denotes love. Love for you kids is not a bad thing.

I don't understand why people get so ragey about FB. FB was never meant to be a cerebral space. It is for social networking.

Social networking tends to consist of lots of people talking about fairly trivial stuff which is going to be boring to a certain percentage and interesting to another percentage.

People who post that they are proud of their child for rolling over know that most other children manage it at some point. They are not all idiots. They are sharing something important to them.

The appropriate response is to ignore it, comment 'awww well done little Sophie' or 'like'.

Unless your nephew is demanding a DNA test on his FB page, your mother is announcing her new career as an escort or your sister is being racist...what is the deal with people getting so pissed off about FB?

MrsKeithRichards Sun 27-Jan-13 22:20:29

You've done some quite impressive backtracking there op.

Based on your first post yabu, and seeing as you asked, yes, a bit of a twat.

But it seems its the constant overshare you despise for which yanbu. You hide or delete those who are boring you and follow the stfu parents page.

lockets Sun 27-Jan-13 22:20:40

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usualsuspect Sun 27-Jan-13 22:21:18

Of course watching your child hit milestones is something to be proud of.

HiggsBoson Sun 27-Jan-13 22:22:59

No backtracking at all - I still maintain things like rolling and crawling are NOT influenced by parental skill or the intelligence of the child, so why the pride?

DD does OTHER things I am proud of, yes.

Cherriesarelovely Sun 27-Jan-13 22:23:49

I feel proud just looking at DD every single day. I honestly wonder what I did to deserve such a lovely girl. I don't particularly enjoy people sharing every single little thing about their kids on fbook though. Not sure why, it just "grates" as they say in Norfolk.

Shelby2010 Sun 27-Jan-13 22:26:11

But I don't believe you didn't say to her "Look at you, you're so clever!" when she did first roll over, take her first steps etc & then tell proudly tell her father or grandparents about it.

I agree posting about it on FB is a bit OTT, unless of course you only have actual friends/family reading it who might be interested. But sadly half the people who regularly use FB seem to think that other people care about what they had for tea, or the fact they are having a coffee in Starbucks etc so it's probably par for the course for them.

Softlysoftly Sun 27-Jan-13 22:26:17

You are swinging wildly between "its Facebook" and "I congratulate her" to "only proud of significant things not rolling"

If I were you I'd conceed defeat, accept yabu and slink away to gaze adoringly at dd then Facebook your mates about her amazing snoring grin

lockets Sun 27-Jan-13 22:27:40

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

usualsuspect Sun 27-Jan-13 22:27:58

So don't use FB then,it's not compulsory.people are free to write what the hell they like on their FB.

mymatemax Sun 27-Jan-13 22:28:36

my ds2 has had to work fcking hard to roll over, to site, to stand, to speak I am amazingly proud of him his disabilities mean everything he does is bloody hard work.
DS1 everything just happened naturally, I was pleased & happy of course, not sure pride is exactly the right word but I am proud of the person he is.

I cant imagine ever not feeling pride in my children for many many reasons

HiggsBoson Sun 27-Jan-13 22:29:11

Not a SN debate guys hmm

McNewPants2013 Sun 27-Jan-13 22:29:42

I am proud of my DC, even more DS who has austism.

when DS make procress is very slow and I want to shout it over the tannoy system.

Yabu, only because these milestone for you are insignificant they are not to many parents.

AllYoursBabooshka Sun 27-Jan-13 22:30:04

Why the pride? Because watching your child progress and grow is an amazing thing.

Just because they are supposed to do something doesn't make it any less special when they figure out how to do it.

HiggsBoson Sun 27-Jan-13 22:30:10

Softly my OP makes it very clear that I'm talking about rolling, crawling etc.

Greensleeves Sun 27-Jan-13 22:31:38

my dh saw your thread title and said "oh, fuck off"

I have nothing to add.

SneakyNuts Sun 27-Jan-13 22:31:43

YABU. I was actually really proud when DD crawled and took her first steps, seeing as the state of her hips made me think she never would...

Shelby2010 Sun 27-Jan-13 22:31:54

In that case why is intelligence something to be proud of? It's something you're born with, no effort at all. It comes across that you are more impressed when your DD displays behaviours that you have trained in to her, so you can take credit for it. And that's just being SMUG, which is a much deadlier sin than pride! grin

TwoKidsAndCounting Sun 27-Jan-13 22:32:35

Totes agree with OP, comments like 'I'm so proud of my little man, he's just taken his first steps' and 'my little princess' bla bla bollocks, pass me the sick bucket! Fair enough being happy about these achievements and milestones but proud...? Some people just love the attention!

AllYoursBabooshka Sun 27-Jan-13 22:33:26

Very good point Shelby.

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