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AIBU?

have had enough and gone back to bed

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VivaLeBeaver · 25/12/2010 10:55

They can sort fucking dinner out. Was doing the veg and dd hit the dog. Dog screamed, ran into the table and screamed again. Dd is nine and terrorises the dog for no reason. Am at my witd. End. It'll bite her one day. So i start yelling at dd and dh who saw everything yells at me for yelling at her. Merry fucking xmas.

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IWantToBeAFairyWhenIGrowUp · 25/12/2010 10:59

Firstly breathe.....

Now try and chill out - its always stressful this time of year.

Do you know why your dd teases your dog? That's mean - poor thing doesn't know what's going on today.

tell ask your hubby to either entertain your daughter or sort out dinner.

Hope your day gets better.

HeroShrew · 25/12/2010 10:59

don't go back to bed, you'll only stew. Do, if you can, go for a five minute walk around the block or down the lane. Take the dog. It'll all look better after you've been outside on this beautiful day.

VivaLeBeaver · 25/12/2010 11:07

She doesn't tease it, she beats it up and runs up to it screaming at it. She says she doesn't like the dog.

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Goblinchild · 25/12/2010 11:13

I'm not a dog person, but at 9 someone ought to be really stomping on her behaviour. Or the dog needs to be rehomed.
You don't seem to be happy about the situation, so what are you going to do about it?

GypsyMoth · 25/12/2010 11:22

That's bad for a 9 year old. How long have you had the dog?

TheUnmentioned · 25/12/2010 11:46

well tbh there would be very harsh punishments if that happened here, xmas or not.

Goblinchild · 25/12/2010 11:49

It's not just Christmas, sounds like that's how the Op's DD usually interacts with the poor dog.
If it does bite her, who will be in trouble?

deaddei · 25/12/2010 11:53

Google photos of dog bites/attacks and tell her that will happen to her,
ANd tell her about the woman killed on XMas EVe.
At 9 she should know how to behave.
Or rehouse dog (or dd)

twopeople · 25/12/2010 12:09

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WhatsWrongWithYou · 25/12/2010 12:10

Um have you just got the one then?

diddl · 25/12/2010 12:16

That´s horrible behaviour-especially for a nine year old.

Take the dog out for a goos walk & tell them that you expect lunch ready when you get back.

And then teach your daughter some manners!

She´s old enough to leave the dog alone if she doesn´t like it.

MegBusset · 25/12/2010 12:20

That is pretty shocking, I would not let my 3yo hit an animal let alone a 9yo, how long have you had the dog?

I would take the dog for a walk and let DH sort dinner.

differentnameforthis · 25/12/2010 12:28

I am pretty shocked at your daughter's behaviour, tbh. My 2.5yr old knows that you don't chase/beat/tease our dog! I am surprised (and grateful) that she hasn't been hurt, but feel it is a matter of time!

Instead of hiding away, you need to address this. Either your daughter learns to treat the dog with respect, or you rehome somewhere where it will be safe!

differentnameforthis · 25/12/2010 12:28

I am surprised (and grateful) that she your daughter hasn't been hurt, but feel it is a matter of time!

atswimtwolengths · 25/12/2010 12:33

Show some compassion to your dog and have it rehomed immediately.

Show some compassion to your daughter and get her some professional help.

Now tell your husband to take your daughter and the dog for a walk and not to come back until the dinner is ready - you can send him a text ten minutes beforehand.

AbiAbi · 25/12/2010 12:34

It's a Christmas flaming! Ho ho ho!

OP - I hope your day gets better.

WhatsWrongWithYou · 25/12/2010 12:36

I agree; a dog shouldn't have to endure that sort of treatment every day of its life. Either you're in control or your DD. If it's to be her then the dog shouldn't be living with you.
I suspect this is not the only area where there's conflict - treat this as a first step to gaining a peaceful existence.

VivaLeBeaver · 25/12/2010 15:41

Well I calmed down and went back and cooked the dinner. She's not like this with the dog all the time, just flares up every now and then. Yesterday they were snuggled up on the sofa all day together happy as anything.

I ask her why she does it and she says that she hates the dog, but then later she's fussing over the dog/playing nicely with her again. It seems to happen if the dog walks near her when she's busy with something else, the dog is big so does tend to be in the way but as I keep telling DD she isn't doing anything wrong.

I've had another big talk with DD about it and said if it happens again not only does the dog get rehomed but her cats and guinea pigs go as well. As well as telling her (again) how upset it makes me and more importantly how upsetting it is for the poor dog. I'm just hoping its sunk in. DD's been in tears and saying sorry to the dog..........

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jugglingjo · 25/12/2010 16:18

I'm glad your day has got better Viva !

Our day has just got worse, because after a lovely afternoon sledging session in the park, on the way home the car skidded, heading into a tree, coming to a stop on a post - result - crumpled bonnet !

But, at the end of the day, whether that's Christmas day or any other, no-one was seriously hurt.

Be thankful. And remember, as always, Tomorrow's another day !

VivaLeBeaver · 25/12/2010 16:34

That's awful about your car, glad noone was hurt.

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ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 25/12/2010 17:48

Rehome the dog, if it ends up snapping it'll be the one who ends up really suffering. Valhalla will prob have your guts for garters if she sees this !

diddl · 25/12/2010 18:19

"if the dog walks near her when she's busy with something else, the dog is big so does tend to be in the way"

I can see a bit why she gets upset tbh then.

Don´t tink it would be fair to get rid of all the animals though-that´s like saying if you can´t have your pet, she can´t have hers either.

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DooinMeCleanin · 25/12/2010 18:33

Bring her here to meet my dog. He'll soon learn her [evilgrin]

He wouldn't savage her, but he does bite back if you wind him up. The neighours child learnt quick enough when she refused to believe he would bite her if she kept yelling at him and dragging his collar.

A dog nervous dogs like yours sounds is more likely to get sick and snap badly one day.

You need to have serious words with her. If either of my children treat devil Dog, puppy or fat cat like that, they'd be in a for a shock.

DooinMeCleanin · 25/12/2010 18:36

diddl a child who can behave like that does not deserve the priveledge of owning pets. Poor dog

diddl · 25/12/2010 18:51

TBH I feel sorry for the daughter & the dog.

She loves it in her way it seems but gets overly annoyed when she is busy & it disturbs her.

Perhaps there are some activities that she needs to do in her own room with the dog not being allowed in.

Maybe she teases the dog because she is jealous-OP seems to beall for the dog.

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