Hugs.

NOT your brain! Fingernail? Sleeve? Eyebrows can be troublesome.

TBH.. it was a complete disaster and as the saying goes....it is being so cheerful that keeps me going.....

Hugs Toot, I am an emotional walking time bomb at the moment and sort of fighting to keep things together....

Am virtually bald again..which is both and liberating, although I dunno why . Can't decide what to have pierced at the moment..my brain I think.

checking in TMW - how are you, how was the rest of your weekend?

Glad your mum and dad helped, that is great.

Would like a pic if you do tow the dcs...

Big hugs to the warrioress and the kitten xx

Thanks for your support and thoughts, again.

Am on an emotional roller coaster but I suppose at least it is now my own and not someone elses drink fuelled one.

Feel like a warrioress one minute and a mewling kitten the next.

My in-laws are very low down on my christmas card list, I think they think this is a soap opera and keep winding him up to exploding point. My mum and dad helped him a bit in the end and I was proud of their humanity.

Glad I am not at the epicentre of a drink fuelled exixtance any more but I will always be sad that good people are hijacked by the fucking stuff. I have seen so many lives screwed up by it, I have some real issues with alcohol at the moment.

Maybe I need to deal some justice to a 6-pack with DS's baseball bat..... Or get a punch bag in the design of a 'tinny'. Will make it to kick-boxing if I have to tow DC's beds along with me lol......

Hey Mits, just wanted to say I'm thinking of you. Good luck today.

And doggedly keeping going is strong, that's why people keep saying it.

Mits, I am thinking of you today {{{{{}}}}}xx

Create a set of stock answers, TMW, that can be applied to most general questions. If they go beyond that, smile and shake your head.

If someone asks you how you are with that commiseratory side-tilt to the head, ask them which answer they would like, the short polite fib or the long detailed truth (I found this worked brilliantly - only the people who were genuinely interested in my wellbeing asked for the long complicated version )

Your Dad is right - it is an impossible situation for him to get involved in and he shouldn't even attempt it. Perhaps he wouldn't love your H so much if he knew exactly how badly you have been treated? Have you told them the naked truth? You should, so that they can support you properly in full knowledge of what you have had to deal with.

I know that sometimes you just want to shut the door on the world - occasionally, it is a good thing to do and I would take advantage of the time you have to yourself when your DSS2 takes the DC to literally close the door and ignore everyone and everything.
Whilst protracted wallowing is a bad thing, short bursts of wallowing and allowing full expression of your grief can be highly beneficial - after a while you get fed up with yourself anyway (and run out of tissues) and then you feel marginally better and ready to keep going again.

((((((hugs))))))

{{{{{{{Mits}}}}}}}
run here!!

I spoke to someone in depth today SB, she seemed unsurprised by my concerns and I think I would like to deal with a woman if possible.

I don't know, I don't have 'man' issues but feel a bit wary.

Big hugs for you SB, and thank-you for thinking of me. I hope things go as smoothly as possible and maybe by the time we meet we will both be in better places......(((((())))) xx

My mum and dad came over to treat me and dc's and give me some TLC, which was unexpected as they are not prone to spontaneous parental outbursts!! Lol..

My Dad loves H to pieces and is deeply troubled by the situation. He doesn't feel able to 'intervene' between husband and wife, which is a far cry from my standing with the outlaws......

DSS2 has offered to have DC's for a weekend so that would be a break, the stretched emotions are exhausting.

People are being lovely but it is harrowing as people start to asks questions , I feel like running away with DC's sometimes.