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Should I ring this number

(111 Posts)
NameChanged2333 Sat 15-Oct-16 12:47:28

Apologies - this may be confusing

My DP went out last night and didn't come home. This morning he has made two phone calls to a number that has a picture of a woman on the contacts but no name.
He claims it's the number of the girlfriend of the friend he stayed at and his phone ran out of charge so he used my DP's phone to call her this morning. His friend hadn't remembered the (new) girlfriends number but in anticipation of losing his charger in the morning had got her to ring his phone (when they were out and she wasn't with them). Then this morning after his friend's phone ran out of charge and he couldn't find the charger, he woke my DP up to phone his girlfriend with the conveniently stored number.

My DP then blocked the "girlfriend's" number in his phone so she didn't call him and I "wouldn't give him shit"

I thought it was bullshit but as I'm typing that I'm even more convinced I'm being spun a lie.

Shall I ring it? I risk looking like a twunt if he is telling the truth don't I?

inlectorecumbit Sat 15-Oct-16 13:01:13

I would phone--the story seems a bit too convenient..
His friend hadn't remembered the (new) girlfriends number but in anticipation of losing his charger in the morning had got her to ring his phone (when they were out and she wasn't with them).

Seems more than a bit fishy. You have nothing to lose by phoning

NameChanged2333 Sat 15-Oct-16 13:05:21

I'm in bits. He's been truly dreadful since he got home. Screamed at me but not about that about the fact that he's entitled to a night out every now and then and called me every name under the sun.

I'm just going to meet a friend to talk it over, she's said she'll call the number if I want her to. I think I don't want to look a twunt and I also don't want confirmation that it is what I think it is...

TheNaze73 Sat 15-Oct-16 13:05:22

No

unimagmative13 Sat 15-Oct-16 13:12:01

Type the number into Facebook and see if a profile comes up and who she is friends with

Veggiesupremeextracheese Sat 15-Oct-16 13:14:05

the longer you leave it the longer he has to get her to lie to you!

ijustwannadance Sat 15-Oct-16 13:14:11

Sorry op but the whole nastiness thing and him calling you names screams guilty conscience to me. Re diverting the attention back to you to make you look controlling and untrusting.

Makes no difference if you ring the number or not. He's lying.

AnyFucker Sat 15-Oct-16 13:14:38

Dodgy

Such a convoluted tale and his subsequent behaviour absolutely stinks

PoldarksBreeches Sat 15-Oct-16 13:16:06

The story of how he got the number doesn't make sense and his horrible behaviour his morning indicates guilt.
Ring the number.

hollyisalovelyname Sat 15-Oct-16 13:20:26

Ring now. Or get your friend to do it asap.

HughLauriesStubble Sat 15-Oct-16 13:20:43

I would type the number into facebook first and then decide whether to ring or not. Your husband's behaviour screams of guilt though.

HandyWoman Sat 15-Oct-16 13:34:51

Horseshit...

Abusive cheating lying twunt

Can you stay over at your friend's to think things through?

flowers

IreallyKNOWiamright Sat 15-Oct-16 14:37:14

Ask him to leave. The way he is behaving proves something went on to me. If it was nothing he would have apologised and not blocked her number.

kilmuir Sat 15-Oct-16 14:40:38

Guilty

AnchorDownDeepBreath Sat 15-Oct-16 14:42:59

You can ring the number or not, really, either way you know what has happened.

He didn't even have the sense to make up a coherent story and now he's taking out his guilt on you.

BrassMonk Sat 15-Oct-16 14:43:01

Sounds like bullshit. Agree with typing it into Facebook. Also try saving it as a contact and checking if she has whatsapp as there is a profile pic option on there.

Olddear Sat 15-Oct-16 14:44:56

Yeah, that happened.....

PoppyPicklesPenguin Sat 15-Oct-16 14:50:56

Sounds very fishy to me, and I have a friend who does this to me all the time, she is a nightmare for her phone dying, and has put her current boyfriends number in my phone in case it dies in the past quite a few times and then used it to call him when she is on her way home so he knows she's safe.

One did once call me back and I've then just sent a text saying not with her anymore she's at home her phone should be charged by now so you can reach her on there ttfn.

I've always added a name
I've never added a picture (because why would I have a picture)
I've either deleted the number or blocked it when she's moved onto the next one
She never known she is going to loose her charger

My DP has also never felt the need to check my phone the following morning, the fact you felt the need to check makes me think you may have had your doubts already

StartledByHisFurryShorts Sat 15-Oct-16 14:55:20

There are genuine reasons why someone might want to give their gf the phone number of the person they're out with that evening.

However, your partner sounds like an absolute arsehole. Regardless of whether or not he's cheating, why are you with him?

AnchorDownDeepBreath Sat 15-Oct-16 14:55:27

Actually WA is a good call - im guessing his phone has imported her picture from there or FB.

RosieWithTheGoodCreditHistory Sat 15-Oct-16 14:58:24

Is the name calling a regular thing, OP?

redandblackwhitething Sat 15-Oct-16 15:00:52

Have you saved the number and checked it on what's app? Is that how you got the photo? If not then do that and message her on there

Although he is clearly lying. Sorry, but he is

Moojay Sat 15-Oct-16 15:09:56

If she is a Fb friend, her picture could come up in contacts list next to her number if his phone is automatically synced with contacts iyswim
However his awful behaviour speaks volumes to me.
I would ring the number in front of him, if it is as he says its probably not then he'll be totally fine with you ringing it.

Moojay Sat 15-Oct-16 15:11:04

Also, why on earth would she of rung him??

Coconutty Sat 15-Oct-16 15:12:33

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

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