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Dating chat thread! Number 47

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lubeybooby Wed 20-Mar-13 19:43:20

Here we go again folks, all dating related chit chat here.

OhWesternWind Wed 20-Mar-13 20:23:15

Sorry Velvet cross post. Sorry to hear that.

lubeybooby Wed 20-Mar-13 20:26:39

Hmmm velvet (yay for the neg result btw) but about C, so he is around online and stuff then yet takes forever to reply to your texts? That is really shit tbh.

I had got the impression he was one of these technophobe type people but those types don't make comments on photos.

mercury7 Wed 20-Mar-13 20:27:15

bloody facebook is the work of the devil..maybe just ask him Velvet if he wants things to be ongoing between you?

ike1 Wed 20-Mar-13 20:27:43

Course Velv Was in a bit of a rush with message there. Fuck sakes its all so bloody disappointing....

hoplittlebunnyhophophop Wed 20-Mar-13 20:30:47

Oh, sorry velvet. What are you going to do?

VelvetSpoon Wed 20-Mar-13 20:32:33

Lubey generally he is not an online sort of person, hence so few people on his FB. I've not seen anything else he's commented on - I've had a quick nose on his immediate family's pages and nothing there, and nothing else on any of this girls other photos. So I don't think its something he does all the time, which makes it worse somehow.

Bollocks.

VelvetSpoon Wed 20-Mar-13 20:35:39

I am gutted, honestly I thought he really liked me. I didn't think you spent all night cuddling someone and holding their hand if they were just a meaningless shag.

If I don't get a text by tomorrow I will have to text him and ask him outright if he intends to see me again. Even though I probably know the answer to that.

lubeybooby Wed 20-Mar-13 20:36:53

I would text him again now asking nicely for an answer about Friday, so that you at least know if you have the chance to talk or not.

Is he still on PoF or whatever?

Movingforward123 Wed 20-Mar-13 20:51:26

Just marking my place wink

Velvet - sorry to hear that hmm stupid men!

VelvetSpoon Wed 20-Mar-13 20:53:26

C was on Match, I deleted my account so can't check but tbh even if I could I don't really think I can face knowing about that, tonight has been disappointing enough already.

I have never doubted him for a second (in terms of thinking he may be seeing/pursuing other women), somehow that makes it worse.

I had a brilliant day at work, a v senior manager (the one who thinks I am always cheerful, and today said he cant imagine me being in a bad mood!) told me he thought some work I'd done for him was outstanding grin, and told my manager (in front of me) that I am not allowed to leave, as he wants me working directly for him for the foreseeable. Which is a massive feather in my cap.

and now this hmm

WarmFuzzyFun Wed 20-Mar-13 20:53:26

Velvet sad I hope not. Let's not be to swift, it may not be how it looks...

WarmFuzzyFun Wed 20-Mar-13 20:58:46

{Some} Men are strange creatures....talk to him, face to face, and find out. Decide what you think/feel and go from there.

We are here.

I feel a bit upset about it myself (silly isn't it?)...sad

OhWesternWind Wed 20-Mar-13 21:01:19

I'm with WFF if you can get to see him. When the situation's a bit tricky, face-to-face talking is usually best. Could you just text saying you need to see him Friday?

ike1 Wed 20-Mar-13 21:01:40

I apologise to the undoubtedly many fine fellows out there....but honestly at times it just seems that we females are dealing with utter crap and bollox from blokes..

velvet crap sad. How about you text him tonight, see if you're going to meet or not this week. Like Lubey says, at least you'll know that at least.

OhWesternWind Wed 20-Mar-13 21:02:28

And brilliant stuff at work. A real feather in your cap!!

I really must stop trying to post from my phone, I'm bad enough when I'm on the laptop blush.

VelvetSpoon Wed 20-Mar-13 21:08:40

Ah WFF don't be sad it's bad enough I'm on the verge of tears, I don't want to make anyone else sad!

Much as I do want to talk to him, (and I think everyone is right, any sort of conversation needs to be face to face - not that I'll be admitting to stalking his FB, but I do need to know whats going on between us, whether this is just sex or more than that) and not jump to the worst possible conclusion, I don't know if or when I'll get the chance, I haven't even had a reply to the text I sent on Monday yet, which asked if I was seeing him on Friday.

Velvet ((((hugs))))

VelvetSpoon Wed 20-Mar-13 21:34:54

I just got a text. I hadn't sent mine, so this is replying to Mondays. Need the collective hive view.

He has said he's got his DC Friday, he's really sorry, that he is useless for not having told me sooner or for having arranged anything else instead, and for letting me down. He said he feels he is messing me about a lot, and not being fair to me.

Bollocksbollocksbollocksbollocks

ike1 Wed 20-Mar-13 21:38:12

Put simply...yes he bloody well is! What a flaming pain...

ike1 Wed 20-Mar-13 21:41:16

I think at this stage Velv I would be tempted to text a 'Are you really all that bothered? text and try to move on..

hoplittlebunnyhophophop Wed 20-Mar-13 21:41:37

Velvet, you could try just being straight up with him by agreeing that he has been a bit useless and that you would like to see him but that if he would just rather leave it at that he should be honest about it.

Actually, I am not the person to give advice about this. Ignore that.

KinNora Wed 20-Mar-13 21:41:39

Firstly Velvet I'm really sorry about the FB thing. I agree with everyone else who says that you need to see him face to face ( and I know how hard that is ) - as for the text apologising about messing you about, being useless, not being fair to you, the answer is easy, he should stop being so bloody elusive and actually put a bit of effort in instead of angsting.

ike1 Wed 20-Mar-13 21:44:20

I wonder what he would do if you told him you are coming over now to talk?

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