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Posifrickentivity thread: pregnant after miscarriage. TODAY WE ARE PREGNANT.

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squizita Sat 17-May-14 22:09:50

Continuing our journeys through pregnant after past loss.

Hand holding and support for all.

TODAY WE ARE PREGNANT.

ShergarAndSpies Sat 17-May-14 22:14:47

Can I join?

BFP today (eek!) This would be DC2 after 2 x 12 wk mc's.

fedupofrainydays Sat 17-May-14 22:16:45

Marking my spot. Thanks squiz

Hi shergar and welcome

MrsGiraffe12 Sat 17-May-14 22:20:20

Marking my place. 24 weeks tomorrow, really relieved to get to this point as it means baby would stand a chance of survival if it had to be born (paranoia after a previous pre term baby) :-)

Welcome shergar lots of hand holding and support here x

ShergarAndSpies Sat 17-May-14 22:29:25

Thanks smile

Anyone have any tips for not driving yourself insane over the next few months?

Penguin13 Sat 17-May-14 22:33:57

Klou I'm so sorry you're still going through such an awful time. I would echo the others and say get to A+E if you are bleeding very heavily. Sending hugs to you.

squizita Sat 17-May-14 22:34:51

Hi Shergar ... my tips would be:
1) Never Dr Google. Buy a sensible (British- not scary USA) book e.g. Lesley Regan's 'Your Pregnancy Week By Week' and use the NHS choices site for advice. Then you know what is worth calling the midwife for and what is scary crap.
2) If you get in a flap, come here. Everyone will say "oh I do that too" and you'll feel less mad about wearing/carrying pads everywhere, knicker checking, prodding your belly, monitoring your mucus, scan freak outs etc
smile

OneLittleToddleTerror Sat 17-May-14 22:50:21

klou is it just two changes in a day? Or do you mean much more. You know what a MC bleed should look like and if it is much more heavier than that, maybe a fresh pad every 15/30min, go to the A&E. Our bodies can't handle large amount of blood losses (I'm not medically trained so I'm not sure how heavy is too heavy). Otherwise your mum knows you better and so take her suggestion to have a rest for the week. You know what's the best thing for you is. We will be here if you need a chat.

It could be it's not an MC but just the lining. I have been the placenta is unmistakable in the hospital. I don't know if it's true because I didn't see mine. They have me those things to catch my clots/blood in so I can look for the placenta and they can also weigh my blood loss. I ended up in theatre for EPRC.

I understand you don't want to keep your hopes too high after what you have been through. Just take care and be kind to yourself.

Welcome shergar.

CorporeSarnie Sat 17-May-14 22:51:52

Thanks squiz for the new thread. Welcome shergar, squiz is absolutely right, pregnancy after MC is a rollercoaster ride, particularly the first trimester. But all here know the worry and fear, this is a safe place to air it all.
I am feeling sad that my being in a mood has ruined what should have been a lovely day. Shouted at DD a couple of times as I was tired out, felt a bit better after a nap but was snappish all day. Am home alone with DD tomorrow and a bit worried that I won't cope, still slow on my feet and definitely not getting 2nd tri glow on at all. Hoping for a better day tomorrow.
Thinking of klou and hoping for the best.

Kloulou Sat 17-May-14 23:01:32

Thank you penguin and one. It was 2 changes in I would say up to 2 hrs, since then it's been nothing like what I would expect after hearing that plop. Not long been to the loo and it's still fresh but not much on the pad and just there when I wipe. Excuse my language but my head is truly fucked. I think my mum is worried for my well being, it must be hard for her to see me go through this and not be able to help. I think you're still mummy no matter how old your babies are aren't you. I'm gonna follow her advice as I think it's what is gonna keep me sane. I'm so fortunate to have 2 beautiful DDs and they are who I need to focus on x

Penguinita Sat 17-May-14 23:05:58

klou so sorry to hear what you are going through. It does sound quite similar to when I passed the sac with my natural MC, but if they saw a HB so recently it seems quite soon for that to happen, so there is still hope. But the not knowing either way must be exhausting, hope you get answers soon flowers

Penguinita Sat 17-May-14 23:11:10

Thanks for the new thread squiz, big brownie points for you.

Welcome shergar, my tip would be just try to take one day at a a time and set small milestones.

Little Pingu is beating me up from the inside tonight, I've never known her be so active. Maybe at 38+4 she is just desperate to get out. At one point I am sure I actually heard one of the kicks. It sounded weirdly like a fish slap, rather appropriate grin

Cuppachaplz Sun 18-May-14 00:19:35

Thanks sqiz

Hi shergar, like *penguin said! try thinking in days not months. I have found this thread so useful over last couple of weeks, however not sure how sane I class as !

* klou* hope you're feeling better soon. I was diagnosed with a SCH, which they said is often called a tear, the same day you had your scan. I don't know if this is similar to what you have, but I am still passing fresh blood, and they told me to expect this for a couple of weeks, and that whilst no pain likely not another mc. I don't know if this helps, it still alarms me... Hope things settle down, and you feel better soon

Alb1 Sun 18-May-14 00:36:09

Welcome shergar, and klou so sorry you're having such a hard time, good that you have such a supportive mother tho, I have no useful advice I'm afraid just take care of yourself thanks

25 weeks today, havnt felt the baby move again today despite strong movements all week, but as the same thing happened last Saturday I'm hoping it's just related to my shift patterns and having such incredibly tiring days on Saturdays... Finally have another midwife appointment on Monday so am really hoping il get a decent one this time that will put my mind at rest about movement! and my hundred other crazy questions I have lined up for her

NerdyBird Sun 18-May-14 01:25:30

klou sorry you're having more bleeding. If you don't feel like going to hospital maybe see how you go tomorrow and then decide. Please take it easy and rest as much as possible.

Had thought I was getting better as I ate some dinner and kept it down, but alas I've just thrown it back up again. I really hope it is a bug and will pass soon. Meant to be out for lunch tomorrow but not sure I'll be up to going. Baby seems unaffected so far.

TeaRex Sun 18-May-14 07:18:57

Hi, just marking place smile welcome to shergar congratulations smile

klou are you able to see anyone today to get confirmation? Really hope it's just your body giving you a little scare but all's well really x

joosiewoosie Sun 18-May-14 08:01:53

Klou - look after yourself. Take it easy , enjoy your dc and 111/get yourself checked if you can stand it no more. Keeping all crossed for you.

Thanks Squiz for your words of advice re left side pains. I'm hoping that's all it is! When I wiped this morning there was a small bit of pink on the paper...just hoping it's settling in stuff, and not something occurred from where I got up too quickly in the night to pick up my crying daughter! Will I be second guessing throughout my whole pg now? I wasn't a paranoid Percy before my mc....it's gonna be a challenging time I think!

Thanks for your good holiday wishes Moomin! It's sunny today, so we are gonna head out to the beach later to make the most of the weather.

amicablemoomin Sun 18-May-14 08:03:59

morning everyone and thanks for the new thread squiz. Welcome shergar.

klou I'm so sorry you are going through this. I am thinking of you. thanks

nerdy hope you feel better soon!

joosiewoosie Sun 18-May-14 08:04:08

And hi and welcome Shergar! I've only just joined the thread too after my BFP last week, so we must be at a similar stage.

bakingtins Sun 18-May-14 08:07:32

Welcome shergar good to be a newbie on a new thread!

klou I'm so sorry to read that you've been bleeding. If it were me I couldn't live with the uncertainty and would be straight down the "green mile" but perhaps this is one of those situations where mum knows best. I had a SCH (think that would also be referred to as a tear - seperation in the attachment of the baby to the lining) with my DS2 and bled from wks 8-16, several times pretty heavily. Having had a MC previously I was convinced lots of times it was all over but he was fine. I also had one in this pregnancy as an incidental finding, it never bled and was resorbed. Doctors normally advise rest in the hope that it helps it settle down.

I'm v excited to think I should have a baby on this thread - unless you all chat a lot grin We had a lovely time at DS2's party yesterday, could not have asked for more perfect weather and the Forest School leader was brill. I have lots of fab photos of fairies in the woods for my yearbook (not to mention my little Tinkerboy) and they all had a great time. I was knackered afterwards though. Nothing much on the agenda now other than have a baby! and survive half term

DrFunkesFamilyBandSolution Sun 18-May-14 08:19:10

Welcome Shergar! If you work out how not to drive yourself crazy, let me know! This is hopefully going to be my third ds but I'm only 9 wks so denial. denial. denial. Is helping me through (not working so much as I look about 20wks)!

Klou, sorry you're going through a horribly uncertain time, fingers crossed the bleeding stops & you've got a resilient little bean. X

fedupofrainydays Sun 18-May-14 09:18:20

How are you this morning klou you must be so scared
And not quite sure what to think. I think I would try get a scan as at least then I would know either way as that's what seems to be messing with your head so much. You are just speculating (as we all would) and it could be either or scenario. I know, despite me being a mummy, my mum helped carry me through my mcs and this preg.

joosie I was quite a calm, rational person before my mcs and never really worried about much. Being preg after mc has made me the biggest worrier and I actually feel a loon sometimes. The voice of paranoia and the irrational dominates my head space.

I was awake in the night paranoid my bump was too small and hadn't felt baby move since yesterday morning. Think I have now but not sure as they are still so subtle. Such a worrier!

Penguinita Sun 18-May-14 09:56:04

Ooh baking, babies on this thread, how exciting! I hadn't thought about it like that.

Hope everyone enjoys the sunny weather today. I'd love to sit in the garden with a big glass of chilled white wine (not at 10am, obviously). Will have to wait a couple of weeks for that though!

fedupofrainydays Sun 18-May-14 09:57:40

penguin I was just thinking I could have a cool, crisp, Sauvignon blanc right now!! Iced water will have to do!!

Thread babies - exciting!!

CallingAllEngels Sun 18-May-14 10:01:26

Morning all.

Thanks for the new thread squiz

klou I'm sorry to hear you're going through this again. ((Hugs))

8w today. Have an early scan tomorrow night so fx.

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