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November 2012 - We want rattles and we want them now

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StuntNun Mon 04-Feb-13 09:09:49

I am a dragon too - '76 was a good year!

So after nearly a week of nighttime screaming we had a very calm bedtime last night smile I decided to cut out her bath as she's been getting upset when we dressed her afterwards, and instead gave her a massage and story before her feed then bed. She went from 9.45-4.15 which is only the second time she's gone for longer than 6 hours praying we've turned a corner

Had a horrible dream about leaving her for the first time though, woke up crying and with a splitting headache sad

Is anyone else's hair falling out in spaces? I lost a LOT of mine in the shower this morning. I also have been getting random songs in my head today, which I haven't heard for ages. What Shall we Do With The Drunken Sailor was first (early in the morning may have been my cue for that one though) and now it's Lets Get Ready To Rumble hmm

SPADES not spaces!! My hair isn't falling out in spaces...

Catbag Sat 09-Feb-13 12:01:38

My hair is falling out at a rate which appears unsustainable grin

Stunt Hahahahahahahaha!

Catbag Sat 09-Feb-13 12:03:21

No, Mumsnet! Not grin! Farking shocked face please!

StuntNun Sat 09-Feb-13 12:05:15

The back doorstep VQ? How could anyone do that?

TheDetective Sat 09-Feb-13 12:20:17

shock This child continues to surprise me.

Feeds were at 10pm.... and 8am <falls over>. The only downside was the fact he was unsettled 10-12, then 4 he woke up screaming in pain, so I slept with him and me propped up, as he wanted his dummy, which isnt like him. He usually spits it out when asleep. I think it was helping him breath though, so it was easier to keep him on me and put it back in than up and down every 2 seconds.

After his feed, he slept til 11. Double shock. We had been getting earlier starts all week, 8-9am. Maybe he realises weekends are for lie ins!

He is now back asleep after protesting very fucking loudly at the nasal drops and snot sucker!

MadamGazelleIsMyMum Sat 09-Feb-13 12:22:27

Agree with what has been said by stunt and others that each child probably does have individual needs, and attending to what each child needs is fair. However, as a child, any perceived unfairness in the way my siblings and I were treated caused arguments and resentment. So while I am going to try and acknowledge there are differences between my two, am also going to bear in mind some of the things that bothered me as a child.

biscuit

Just come back from meeting a friend for coffee. She is a close friend. She has 2 kids, both aged almost exactly a year older than each of mine. The eldest has a birthday next week. I know she is having a party because a mutual friend told me about it weeks ago. I/we havent been invited. sad Am trying not to mind and simultaneously think of reasons why we have been overlooked.

Dixiebell Sat 09-Feb-13 12:35:47

Total biscuit post.

AIBU? (I know I'm not!) So we were heading to the 'tots disco' this morning. I got Teddy ready in carseat, packed changing bag. Carseat and change bag are sitting next to each other in lounge. DH comes in & says, shall I put Teddy in car and you go & get ds1 from upstairs? So I go up and get him, bring him down and straight into car. Get to said disco, turns out we have no changing bag. DH says, didn't you bring it? No! It was right there next to Teddy! DH left it in lounge. He put Teddy in car, then got in himself and just sat there waiting for me & ds1. He says it never occurred to him to bring it, he assumed I would. I repeat, it was right next to Teddy! I said, carrying Teddy into car doesn't preclude you carrying something else too. He says, yes it does, how do you open the car door?!!! You put something down! Or you go back for it! How do I manage on my own with 2 kids and a bag, buggy etc?!? He won't admit he should have brought it. It was right next to Teddy!!! I'm not going to move it from the middle of the lounge until he admits I'm right!!!

Dixiebell Sat 09-Feb-13 12:38:19

Also (sorry to go on, I'm disproportionately peed off about this), he says I should have known he wouldn't take it because he told me he was taking Teddy, but didn't mention the bag. Argh!

MadamGazelleIsMyMum Sat 09-Feb-13 12:42:49

YANBU Dixie. Of course the changing bag should be popped in the bag.

To add to my general ire this morning, the fucking postman has just chucked a "while you were out" card through the letterbox without first knocking the fucking door - I'm in.

TheDetective Sat 09-Feb-13 12:43:10

I won't be able to treat mine the same in lots of respects.

The biggest ones are the fact that for DS1, although I went back to college when he was 6 months, it was 2.5 days a week. My course finished when he was 15 months, and then I was at home with him til the month after his 2nd birthday when I started uni. So he had me around a lot more than DS2 will.

I can't do anything to change that.

DS1 I was working 60 hour weeks and studying too from 2 til he was 6 when I finally stopped doing over time. I will never do that again so DS2 will have more of me in those years than his brother did. Hopefully.

Again, I can't change that. sad

DS2 is having much more social interaction with other babies than his brother did, and I think a better start to life. I couldn't afford baby groups, there weren't many around, and I was always the odd one out being very young. I didn't want to mix with others the same age as me, as I was always very very different to my peer group, and did not get on with them until recently when they all started growing up too!. But then I didn't have much in common with mums who were older than me either.

11 years has made a big difference. I've decided its swings and roundabouts. I can't treat them the same because circumstance doesn't allow. But the love I give them is just the same, and I hope they will know that.

Feel sad now as I can't offer DS1 the same opportunities as DS2.

StuntNun Sat 09-Feb-13 12:56:06

So whose turn is it to finish the thread? Any volunteers or will it be a race to the finish line?

MadamGazelleIsMyMum Sat 09-Feb-13 13:04:41

I've never done it before.

MadamGazelleIsMyMum Sat 09-Feb-13 13:05:20

Kind of like the idea of being last man standing.

MadamGazelleIsMyMum Sat 09-Feb-13 13:05:32

Like I'm taking to myself.

MadamGazelleIsMyMum Sat 09-Feb-13 13:05:49

Suits my mood right now.

MadamGazelleIsMyMum Sat 09-Feb-13 13:06:22

Then I can join in the other thread when I am feeling more sociable.

MadamGazelleIsMyMum Sat 09-Feb-13 13:06:45

But have run out of things to say.

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