DH's obsession or whatever. It's not normal is it.. what should I do?

(511 Posts)
NewSchmooo Sun 19-Aug-07 19:25:04

Today there was a mix up at work with my shifts and I came home from work only 45 minutes after I'd left.

I found my DH of 7 years naked on the bed surrounded by all the stainless steel kicten implements that we possess and rubbing a knife sharpener gently up and down an intimate area of his body. He was very aroused. He even had pot pourii candles burning and soft lighting.

I knew something was amiss as soon as I came in because it was so quiet and I just had this intinct but I had been putting the bin out for tomorrow so came in through the conservatory and he didn't hear. I just opened the bedroom door (we live in a bungalow) and there he was.

I know its not another woman but what do I do about this. And the softlighting and stuff; he hasn't made that much effort with me for years.

I don't know what to do. Has anyone ever heard on this? A knife sharpener for goodness sake. I feel sick. Have obviously changed my name for this.

JeremyVile Sun 19-Aug-07 19:27:04

He was heavy petting a knife sharpenr?

LucyJones Sun 19-Aug-07 19:28:17

Is this your first message or are you name changing to cover up your identity? It seems a very odd first post.

JeremyVile Sun 19-Aug-07 19:29:12

" And the softlighting and stuff; he hasn't made that much effort with me for years."

The callous Bastard

policywonk Sun 19-Aug-07 19:29:30

Sorry, but ROFL. At JV, obviously. (JV, check out my scary thread

NewSchmooo Sun 19-Aug-07 19:29:38

I have changed my name to protect my identity. I said so below.

He was gentlt running the knife sharpener shaft up and down his manhood.

MyTwopenceworth Sun 19-Aug-07 19:29:46

Show him you are supportive. Buy him one of these for his birthday.

pipsqueeke Sun 19-Aug-07 19:29:53

as in a knife steele?

hmm could be he's getting a thing for bondage/into 'differnt' sexual things? what did he say?

policywonk Sun 19-Aug-07 19:30:32

Maybe it wants sharpening?

beansprout Sun 19-Aug-07 19:30:41

Did you talk about it? How did you react?

JeremyVile Sun 19-Aug-07 19:30:47

Will do Wonky!

LucyJones Sun 19-Aug-07 19:30:53

I don't think there is anything you can do.
People have very odd fetishes. It's not that different to wanting to be tied up. spanked etc imo

Bluestocking Sun 19-Aug-07 19:31:16

Are you sure you live in a bungalow? How well does it fit under the bridge?

Sheherazadethegoat Sun 19-Aug-07 19:31:25

you need to get yourself a pair of those tinfoil leggings from topshop and accessorize with a pair of colanders.

NewSchmooo Sun 19-Aug-07 19:32:05

It took him a while to realise I was there. He was groaning. He was pretty far gone.

Eventually he looked up and saw me standing there but it was too late for him to stop.

Doodledootoo Sun 19-Aug-07 19:32:15

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pipsqueeke Sun 19-Aug-07 19:32:29

have just asked DH and all he's saying is why? why would you do that?

NewSchmooo Sun 19-Aug-07 19:33:00

We haven't talked about it. I have locked myself in the office in the garage. It was about an hour ago.

teasle Sun 19-Aug-07 19:33:36

You need to talk!

beansprout Sun 19-Aug-07 19:34:26

Well, if you are serious, you should go and talk to him. If that's what he is in to, then talk to him about it. No point in shaming the hell out of him. If you love him, see what he has to say.

pipsqueeke Sun 19-Aug-07 19:34:26

you prob need to go and have a chat with him how do you feel about it all?

doodle - that's what my DH just said - it would be like using a cheese grater

NewSchmooo Sun 19-Aug-07 19:34:35

That is what I want to know Pip. Why WHY? How can I complete with a kitchen set? It's just ridiculous. He doesnt even like cooking.

I want to google this but I am scared.

beansprout Sun 19-Aug-07 19:35:13

Just go and talk to him.

octoandflash Sun 19-Aug-07 19:37:08

ROFL Could have been worse.

pipsqueeke Sun 19-Aug-07 19:37:20

bes thing is to talk to him, he's prob worried etc how you'll react your mind is going 90 to the dozen thinking of anything and everything but you won't know until you talk things out.

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