Fantastic news, Cistus!

Blackduck - don't throw the towel in, you can beat this!

Good for you Cistus (am new to the thread but wanted to congratulate you).

Also for anyone who doesn't click with AA, have a look at Lifering. The basic motto is similar to yours Cistus - "I will not drink (or use) today no matter what" - one day at a time, and good for people who have trouble with the higher power idea. Lots of information online, forums and so on, well worth a look.

Cistus - good for you...I can't say the same but have certainly cut down on it quite a bit and having less days where I am only just functioning...

just A QUICK UPDATE

I have been completely abstinent from alcohol for a month today.

and I feel good.

One day at a time. no longer term goals, but will not drink today

Hope everyone else is where they want to be

No one drinking too much any more then? Excellent news!

The saturday spirit made me change my views ...the good thing is that between sat and sunday, I only had one bottle which is better than 4 (still not ideal I know)..I think I'm better in a way that I dont worry if I dont have wine in the fridge..I know its just small steps..and I know that I wanted to go Cold turquey for a while and I have failed but I'm trying to remain positive and think that actually I have made some progress..I do not drink anymore 2 bottle of wine a day !

Sleep-Dh does drink but it's not a regular thing, he keeps it at week end. He completely disaprove what I have done but now I'm able to talk about it with him and admit that I was wrong becoming addicted and I also apologize.

IUTDTM - what's happened to make you change your view of things since Friday?

can i ask what your partner thinks and how he drinks?
you see i would say i am very much a social drinker-i don't and wouldn't open a bottle of wine on my own,but if there's one on the go then i am first in line for a refill!
i don't want to live without alcohol although i would do if dp struggles to manage the way he drinks-one of the the things that 'got' him at weekend was when i said 'it's one thing going to work smelling of a drip tray once in a while,people notice if it's 3 times a week-people will be talking about it whether they like you or not-and do you want to be the dad at school drop off who fucking STINKS of last nights ale?because i don't want to be married to him and i don't want my kids to be labelled'
you are doing really well, i've joined weighwatchers so there's definitely no chance of me boozing-for one glass of wine i can have a kitkat! although vodka is only a point...
seriously,well done,i'll keep checking back to see how we are all getting on.

Sleepless - I'm in exactly same situation as your DH I think, my main reason for drinking is the boredom, the routine so I'm trying to turn things around by having a hobby, keeping myself busy etc...

I think I have been better lately,I had about 5 dried night and when I drank, it was only a couple of spritzers. I'm kind of happy with it. My aim is not too drink during the week (unless I go out and in moderation) and very little at week end.

if he is an alcoholic then i don't have an issue with it as long as he attempts to deal with it.One of my best friends just celebrated ten years sobriety (he's the same age as me and was an alcoholic teenager)
I think my dp is bored and we are looking at ways to expand his life (long story short was music journo living very much the high life in london at gigs every night with hospitality etc etc gets me pregnant,has to jack dream job in,move 200miles away from friends/life to move in with me/my daughter we have baby,baby is challenging little so and so.Only job he can find is on less than half he was on before doing really really dull research with a bunch of new graduates.So we've talked about him doing a course to refresh his skill set,getting his snowboard out and doing that (he's been skint as been paying for driving lessons and now has passed his test)
basically with him it wasn't the amount he drank but the way he drank which raised alarms.We're fine now,he is going to see what he can do to enjoy drinking sociably,maybe he wont manage it but at least he is in agreement that whilst he may not be george best just yet-his drinking is raising enough alarms for me to find it a problem.
thanks,sorry for the life story.I like you,you are good.