40+ ttc: the one where we all get knocked up!

(249 Posts)
ababsurdum Tue 30-Aug-16 19:44:27

Shiny new thread. Here's the link to the previous one.

AmandaJL41 Tue 30-Aug-16 19:50:53

Loving the PMA in the new title, ababs! grin

lousylear Tue 30-Aug-16 20:08:39

FX for us all!

Bloopbleep Tue 30-Aug-16 20:17:20

Love the title :D I hope you're right.... cake

Starlumiere Tue 30-Aug-16 20:19:45

Yes I love it!! To us ladies!!!

ababsurdum Tue 30-Aug-16 20:35:34

Yes, here's to us all wine

Bloop I don't think you're a tit either, we all have those moments. Did you get your friend a present or can you order something online?

Amanda you are so brave. It's really not been that long, I think you are doing brilliantly.

IAteSomeofthePies Tue 30-Aug-16 21:02:11

Thanks for the shiny new thread Ababs!

You're not a tit, Bloop. It can be really tough. Ordering online sounds sensible.

Amanda you're walking a really hard road. You are so strong! I'm sorry that you have to be.

IAteSomeofthePies Tue 30-Aug-16 21:04:20

I can hardly believe it, but I had a faint line on a test this morning and again this evening! Should be cd1, hopefully not for a long time now. First sniff of a bfp that I've seen since DS. Early, early days but still a tiny little glimmer of hope!

ababsurdum Tue 30-Aug-16 21:10:29

Pies that is fabulous news, congratulations!!! So pleased for you. Here's to a happy and healthy 9 months.

What an excellent start smile

Blondeshavemorefun Tue 30-Aug-16 21:17:38

Here's hoping you all get knocked up smile

Bloopbleep Tue 30-Aug-16 21:19:57

One pies that's brilliant. My fingers are firmly crossed :D

Amanda - sorry I got all excited at the new thread and forgot to reply to your post on the other thread. My heart breaks reading your struggle. You experienced the cruelest thing I can imagine and I have such admiration for your coping. I don't say that to be patronising or cheesy. I can only offer virtual flowers

Bloopbleep Tue 30-Aug-16 21:20:49

Oh I asked for advice on a thread and it was suggested a book so I'm ordering a book for the baby of the woman who has it all.

Winniecymru Tue 30-Aug-16 21:26:08

Just found the new thread - love the title! Hope it rings true! Congratulations Pies thrilled for you. Bloop you are not a tit you are human and it's better to let out your emotions.

I have been reading the thread but not posted as I am going through a tough time at the moment. I've had a major relapse with my ME/Fibromyalgia and been put on antidepressants. The tablets have started to help but I'm living on my nerves having frequent panic attacks so trying to conceive unfortunately has to be put on the back burner for a bit. My DH, DP and two close friends have been amazing and helping me with my three year old. He starts nursery school next Friday so I am praying that I am able to take him as every time I go to front door I'm having panic attacks. Take care all. Xxxxx

IAteSomeofthePies Tue 30-Aug-16 21:26:41

Thanks, All! Fingers firmly crossed.

If I may, Bloop, DS's book is 'Mr Tiger Goes Wild', which is not that common in this country, so hopefully no one else will have bought it for her.

Winniecymru Tue 30-Aug-16 21:28:01

Sorry should have read Darling Parents!

IAteSomeofthePies Tue 30-Aug-16 21:28:47

Cross post with Winnie, I hope you're feeling better soon. That sounds really hard.

Bloopbleep Tue 30-Aug-16 21:28:53

Oh thanks Pies I shall go look for it. I thought I'd get the family a present of the Little Prince, one of my all time favourite stories... But I'll get a couple more.

Starlumiere Tue 30-Aug-16 21:31:35

Pies OMG what a great news!!! Keeping my fingers crossed sweetie!

AmandaJL41 Tue 30-Aug-16 23:44:50

Wow Pies!!! Fantastic! This new thread must be your good luck charm! H&H 9 months! grinstarcake

IAteSomeofthePies Wed 31-Aug-16 13:08:35

Thanks! I hope the new thread is lucky for everyone. I don't quite believe it yet - convinced myself that this morning's line was fainter, etc. I've just bought a CB digi and retested in the work loos and Pregnant 1-2! So at least today I will believe that I am pregnant. I've got to dust off my post-MC pregnancy mantra: today I am pregnant, today ...

Bloopbleep Wed 31-Aug-16 13:08:41

So I bought a couple of frers as I'm 12 dpo which is when af usually turns up yet af hasn't turned up and it doesn't feel like she's about to anytime soon. Now don't get excited because this isn't a story of bfp more of a warning re the efficacy of frers.

There looked like there was the finest hair width shadow of a line showing in addition to the control line. Heart leaps into my throat. You can't get a false positive say I, but there's something not quite right. So I take it apart and hold it to the light. There is a second line visible but it's not a positive test line, nor is it the elusive evap- it's a bright white line where the positive test line would appear if there is enough hormone in your pee to cause a chemical reaction. In the window this line casts the finest of shadows that appears in the right place for a positive test but very faint, barely visible.

I've read lately of so many women thinking they've had a chemical when they see a second faint line on frer and then their period came and now I'm wondering if it's just that hawk eyed women are seeing the position of the chemical test strip. It is so misleading and it's quite disheartening. It could cause a lot less heartache if this strip was totally invisible. I keep looking at this faint line wishing it would be something more than it is. Sadly it's nothing sad

Bloopbleep Wed 31-Aug-16 13:16:42

It's so frustrating! In a certain light it looks like a proper line but tearing it apart shows it's not sobs

ababsurdum Wed 31-Aug-16 13:40:34

Bloop that's just awful, you completely get your hopes up when you see anything in that test window. I don't often use frer, I used to love the superdrug tests when I was ttc ds however they are much more expensive now. It used to be you could get 4 for £8 and they were super sensitive. Anyway, I hope there's still a chance for you this cycle.

Pies that's great, keep that mantra going!

Winniecymru I'm sorry to read you've had such a hard time. I do hope things improve for you very soon flowers

I'm 9dpo today, AF should be due on Sunday.

DebbieSB Wed 31-Aug-16 15:55:03

May I join in. Been ttc with my new hubby for 5 years now, im now 46. We both have kids from previous marriages. Had several mcs over the years but never getting further along. Gave up seriously trying about 18 mths ago after i got to 6 weeks.... havent really had a sniff of a bfp since. Got home yesterday after our hols and felt like testing. Various little symptoms. I have a line. On a one step which i know are notorious. There when it was wet after a few mins and there 30 mins later sti there next day. I havent tested again. What is odd is my temps are low. Very low. They have been very low over 6 mths. Barely touching 36°c when i was last pregs they were 37/38.

AmandaJL41 Wed 31-Aug-16 19:10:21

Welcome Debbie, and congrats! smile Sorry for your previous losses. I've had 3 mc's this year. Very disheartening.

Bloop, I gave up on FRERs. The lines are so piddly these days, and for what you pay for them, I don't think they're any better than the cheapie ones. I was using Wilkos own 25mlU, £1 for a pack of 2. Just as good imo. I've also been caught out by that white strip that looks like it may be SOMETHING. You know the drill - stand in bright daylight, tipping the stick in different angles, squinting, taking pics with an app that inverts the pic, DH shaking his head, etc etc. With me, it did turn into a bfp a couple of days later but it was a chemical.

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