TTC after miscarriage thread #4

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InsufficientlyCaffeinated Fri 29-Apr-16 14:11:03

Hello ladies. I noticed the last thread filled up, seemed to happen all of a sudden! Hoping you find your way here (prepares for tumbleweed)

For reference here's thread 3 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2593041-TTC-after-miscarriage-lucky-thread-number-3

All those we are trying to conceive a child after miscarriage are welcome here, whether it's your first or you already have DC

Good luck ladies. Let's have some BFPs, we've earned it

InsufficientlyCaffeinated Fri 29-Apr-16 14:16:28

Sorry AF got you Amy. Hope you're feeling a bit more ready to get your shagathon on after it's over! I find after AF is over my sex drive perks up again so I'm ready to go for the new cycle

Hope you and DH get back on track soon Cheeky. I agree about not putting your life on hold. For a while I wasn't really focussing on my business because I kept thinking well if I do get pregnant that'll disrupt everything but as it might take a while I don't want to leave it languishing so just getting on with it and hoping for the best on both counts

Brenna yes it will be! And mine too, I've decided so there grin

Brenna24 Fri 29-Apr-16 16:35:24

I have decided this is the thread for Sticky Beans. I stupidly only asked for 9 BFPs on the last one. I am pretty sure we almost made that but hardly any of them stuck. This time I am being more specific and saying we want BFPs that last for 9 months, not 24 hours! It. Is. Decreed.

InsufficientlyCaffeinated Fri 29-Apr-16 16:45:22

Glad you found the thread Brenna! When I saw the other one was closed to new messages I was a bit worried this new one would slip down the list on the fast moving Conception board and nobody would find it!

And yes lots of BFPs that deliver beautiful babies in 9 months time, you listening universe?! Shakes fist in direction of sky despite not believing in any deities or similar

HopefulKate1980 Fri 29-Apr-16 17:21:19

Found you girls!! God I panicked when I saw it had closed. Hope everyone finds us.

Come on universe. Give us some luck and hope!!!

nailsathome Fri 29-Apr-16 17:38:03

Hi everyone.

I had an mmc nearly 8 weeks ago. I'm still bleeding a little so I don't think I'll be able to conceive any time soon but I need to be around ladies who understand!

HopefulKate1980 Fri 29-Apr-16 17:41:49

Hi nailsathome I'm so sorry for your loss. Have you had a negative hpt?

nailsathome Fri 29-Apr-16 18:39:36

It was still positive about 3 weeks ago but I've not had a chance to test again. I'm going to do it in the morning.

I think I had my period 2 weeks ago because I had horrendous bleeding again but it's hard to say as the bleeding never stopped after the mmc.

5tardusty Fri 29-Apr-16 19:06:32

This is definitely going to be a lucky thread! Pregnancy test today was back to v faint and now barely spotting so dtd every other day and hoping for the best. Using preseed and will be starting opk from tomorrow.

Baby shower coming up on Sunday- would rather be watching the Leicester match i think!

5tardusty Fri 29-Apr-16 19:08:35

Hi nails and sorry you're here. Its definitely good to be around people who understand what it's like to go through a miscarriage. I hope you get your BFP this cycle.

LuckyinOctober Fri 29-Apr-16 19:18:02

Thanks insufficiently for starting our new thread, joining the positive thoughts that all our next pregnancies will be sticky ones.

nails that's a really long time to bleed continuously for, have you been given any explanation for it?

Happy bank holiday weekend everyone!

nailsathome Fri 29-Apr-16 19:28:31

No, no explanation. I had a scan a week after I naturally miscarried and it was all clear. They aren't interested in investigating because of that. I can't remember how long I bled for after my first mmc but I had an erpc then so it was different.

Mrsunsure123 Fri 29-Apr-16 20:13:07

I've found you ladies smile

Welcome nails sorry your here flowers

AmyB1986 Fri 29-Apr-16 20:19:50

Found you all!!

Agreed Brenna we want sticky beans and lots of them please!

IC hopefully I'll feel more like getting it on when af's gone too.

Nails welcome and sorry for your loss.

Hope everyone else is doing ok too.

I've just got home from work and what a crap day I've had. Just had my lazy shoes on today. Feel really slow and sluggish.

HopefulKate1980 Fri 29-Apr-16 22:24:56

I love the fact we have all found this new thread so quickly! It's so comforting have you all here. You are a brilliant lot. I wish all of you SO much luck. We'll get our dreams very soon on this thread, I just know it.

Thanks for starting it up again IC.

I am on Cd13 and we have had SIX times this week. That is more than we have ever had, even in our first honeymoon year!! I am sore, sorry TMI. But I am hoping the little sperms are making themselves comfortable tonight. Come on boys...

Happy bank holiday everyone! I am going to attempt to turn off from work, relax,, exercise, steer clear of booze and maybe have a bit more sex, if we can face it. Wish me luck!

Mrsunsure123 Sat 30-Apr-16 08:22:10

Good luck Kate we are also going to try the dtd as much as possible approach, we generally do every other day leading up to ovulation and then an extra day once I get a positive OPK but so far since AF finished we've been busier than usual (not actually planned) so I hope we can keep it up for another few days CD9 here!
We all seriously need some good luck soon smile

HopefulKate1980 Sat 30-Apr-16 08:38:40

I agree mrs. Good luck with the sexy marathon!!

I have woken up this morning and feel like I've been whacked round the head. Think I've got a bug. Better not harm our chances!!

InsufficientlyCaffeinated Sat 30-Apr-16 08:46:38

When should I start to worry and see a Dr about potential fertility problems? As of May which is nearly here I'll have been TTC for a year. Obviously conceived once which ended in my mc. Will my dr see this as a new conception effort, ie I've only been trying since my mc in Jan and should give it longer or will the whole time be taken in to account and be offered tests?
Yes I am worrying about whether I should be worried, my anxiety has gone meta!

Mrsunsure123 Sat 30-Apr-16 08:54:12

Thanks Kate we've got to keep trying. Hope your bug won't affect things for you sad

IC we have been trying over 2 years now and we were refered to the fertility clinic and classed as secondary infertility as we have already concieved once. They take into account your miscarriage and in some cases it can be related to issues that may also be causing infertility. Go to your doctor if your worried, the referal isn't the quickest process so even if you go your at least logged as being there once, it took me 3 times before I got anywhere!

HopefulKate1980 Sat 30-Apr-16 09:06:59

I'm not sure IC. A lot depends on what area you live in I think - I have low ovarian reserve but was told my area couldn't help me on the NHS. We've still got pregnant twice, but I think my MCs have been related to that... Not that anyone has ever said that. Infertility is like the Wild West of medicine - conflicting advice, lack of understanding, black holes of knowledge. Of course there are some amazing nurses and consultants but they don't truly understand infertility and miscarriage.

InsufficientlyCaffeinated Sat 30-Apr-16 10:08:21

It really is terrible how little research and understanding there is around infertility and miscarriage.
Considering this is DEFINITELY my month I probably needn't worry about it...
But just in case I'll see the dr if this cycle isn't a success, my next thyroid function test is due in June anyway so it'll be a good time to go once I have the latest results

AmyB1986 Sat 30-Apr-16 10:12:05

Morning everyone. Hope you're all ok.

IC in my area they say if you've been trying for over a year you should contact your gp if you're under 35, 35 and over its 6 months. If you can prove you've been timing intercourse in the fertile window they rush you through a bit faster. Some Drs suggest temping to confirm ovulation and timing as well.

Just wanted to ask a quick af question, may be a bit tmi but does anyone else have to run to the toilet as soon as they get out of bed to stop flooding? I had to run to the toilet at 7am before it overflowed my pad and then again at 9. Yesterday I had to change my pad from mid-day every 1-2 hours. For day one it was extremely heavy and even heavier today.

HopefulKate1980 Sat 30-Apr-16 10:19:15

I've never had that Amy no but since the MC, I've had to change tampons every hour on my first few days of AF. Make sure you are eating lots of iron! Hope you are ok.

Ha ha, It's DEFINTELY my month too IC. We are gonna nail it this month for sure... If not, im going to talk to my consultant about IVF.

I saw that *CheekychickSSS' posted on the old thread this morning saying she can't find us. Does anyone know how you direct message??

AmyB1986 Sat 30-Apr-16 10:35:53

Kate if you're on the app you can't pm but you can on the browser version.

This af is ridiculous! My mum used to have flooding so bad it ruined her bedroom carpet and to the point she had to put a towel down on the floor. Maybe it's a genetic thing but I can't cope with this. I've got to work later and I can't spend all of my shift in the toilet! I can't use tampons have to wear a pad as well as cuz it floods through both and my mooncup just doesn't have the capacity either. On a plus note I don't have any period pains.

HopefulKate1980 Sat 30-Apr-16 10:44:26

Very ignorant question but does the amount you bleed indicate quality of eggs? Surely lots of blood is a good sign?!

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