Support thread for anyone who has lost a parent (4)

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mummylin Wed 20-Nov-13 14:31:18

Here is our new home hope it's as comfy as the last one

settles in sending get well wishes to badvoc. thanks

mummylin Wed 20-Nov-13 17:01:10

Oh dear badvoc sending best wishes for a speedy recovery, hope you don't have to stay in too long. Drastic way to have a break ! thanks

ssd Wed 20-Nov-13 18:05:08

sending best wishes to badvoc here too, xx

thanks for the new thread mummylin xx

FriendofDorothy Wed 20-Nov-13 23:13:30

Just checking in so I don't lose you all x

t875 Wed 20-Nov-13 23:22:38

I'm here.

Hope everyone feels better soon. Xx

Thinking of you all with anything you might be struggling with and sending hugs thanks x

t875 Wed 20-Nov-13 23:24:10

We are here for you all to chat with. I remember how hard it was coming up to Christmas. Still hard on and off now
So please don't suffer in silence.
We are here for you all xx

mummylin Thu 21-Nov-13 00:25:10

Only one more day until I have to face my nightmare at the crem.i have no idea how I will react to it at all, maybe I am building it up and i t won't be as bad as I think, or maybe it's just that now I will always be back at my mums funeral when I go to that place, yet I can go all the time to take flowers. It dosent make any sense really does it

Badvoc Thu 21-Nov-13 14:06:28

Back home.
On lots of painkillers and on list to have surgery.
Feel dreadful.
Love to all x

mummylin Thu 21-Nov-13 14:40:06

Oh badvoc you poor thing. Are the painkillers working for you ? Any idea how long you have to wait ? Please take care of yourself and slow down. Especially now you are ill yourself, you can't do it all

Badvoc Thu 21-Nov-13 19:26:36

I have had some tramadol but it's made me very sleepy.
Ds2 being so sweet - is next to me in bed looking after me smile
Hope you are ok tomorrow Lin. I will be thinking of you x

mummylin Thu 21-Nov-13 19:49:06

Thanks badvoc at least I won't be alone as there are a few of my family members going too. And my brother s taking me for breakfast first. It's 1pm at the church then 2pm for the crem.
Anyway i hope you are being well looked after, and that thetramadol is keeping you pain free. Hopefully it will help you to sleep tonight. Hope you don't have to wait too long till you get your op date.

t875 Thu 21-Nov-13 21:36:04

Hi everyone.

Mummylin hope you are ok best you can be and tomorrow goes ok. I can imagine it isn't going to be easy for you atall. Hope your feeling better.

Badvoc. Hope your feeling better now, and ds is too.

Wobbly here. Been through last year at Christmas but my word it's hard again this year. Trudge on I guess. But hubby's birthday (40) tomorrow and I know she would be so excited for him. I miss her so much.

Hope everyone is going along best you can. Big hugs. Xx

Hope you are taking it easy badvoc and letting people look after you for a change! you are fab but your are not superwoman and need to take care of yourself now and get back on your feet.

mummylinn - i hope tomorrow goes okay for you and isnt too hard to face, i can only imagine how hard it would be going back to the same place but you can do this smile

T - I dont have any huge words of wisdom or feel good quotes to tell you, i agree with you it is bloody hard, just today i ended up in tears on the way home from town over not being able to buy her a christmas present. i dont think that side of things will go away but they made us who we are today and i think they did a pretty good job!. i hope your dp has a lovely birthday and i hope that you can make some happy memories of the day.

ssd Thu 21-Nov-13 21:59:40

thinking of you all girls xxx

t875 Fri 22-Nov-13 09:16:10

Thinking of you today mummylin. Wrap up warm and a hug for you. cake and brew were right here in the back ground right with you x

follygirl Fri 22-Nov-13 09:20:17

Hi ladies,

I haven't posted on this thread for ages so I'm sure most of you won't know me.
My dad died 6 years' ago today. He had been diagnosed with cancer in the April and had 2 rounds of chemo. The second round nearly killed him but he got better and had an operation to have the tumour removed. The operation was a complete success and the prognosis was optimistic. Then 2 days' later he died of a heart attack in ICU.
It was a complete shock as I had thought he was 'bullet proof'.
He has missed so much in the last 6 years. My kids were only 3 and 1 and he would have loved getting to know them now.
My mum has coped amazingly well but still misses him everyday as do I.
He had a real twinkle in his eye and a smile which was infectious. He was also amazing at giving hugs.

I'm sorry for all your losses. At least here we all understand what it feels like.

t875 Fri 22-Nov-13 09:28:58

Ah folly I do remember you. I'm so sorry, it was nice to read about your dad he sounds a very special man. It really is very hard isn't it. The suddenness for one but just losing them is very hard. Sending you huge hugs today. I'm sure he is very proud of you. Please pop in anytime.
Maybe do something special for you or light a candle for him when I struggle I might add a small thing to my mums shelf.

Take care your bit on your own x

t875 Fri 22-Nov-13 09:30:00

*not was meant to be. Blooming phone x

crazykat Fri 22-Nov-13 13:16:24

Thinking if you today mummylin, I hope it hasn't been as bad as you feared.

Badvoc hope you're feeling a bit better and letting someone else take care of you for a change.

Folly that must have been such a shock to lose your dad like that. I hope today isn't too hard for you.

Having a bad day today. I felt shocking this morning, I think my heavy cold is coming back again. I just seem to pick up every virus at the moment. I keep forgetting my tablets for my bad back which doesn't help, I'm forgetting lots this past week. Two weeks ago I was talking to my mum on the phone like I always did. Now I can't seem to do anything except the bare essentials, I've loads of housework to do but I can't seem to get off the sofa.

Badvoc Fri 22-Nov-13 15:55:42

Thinking of you Lin x
Kat...I think that's pretty normal after a bereavement...you are so run down and prone to catching every little thing. Hope your cold goes away x
Well...the dr has given me morphine smile and I rang the dr sec and I am now on the list for the op on dc 8th.
Please god I can cope with the pain til then...

ssd Fri 22-Nov-13 16:40:05

oh badvoc you poor soul sad

mummylin hope today goes as best it can xx

mummylin Fri 22-Nov-13 20:09:29

Hello all. It was the same room ! But it turned out to be just that , a room. There were two full services one at the church and one at the crem which I wasn't expecting, but I had my three brothers and my aunt and uncle with me and we all sat together which helped a lot. I didnt know one single hymn at the church and Didnt have my glasses with me so couldn't even see the words ! Two of my brothers made up for it by being each side and blasting me out with their own sweet melodic tones ( joke )
It was a. Sad occasion but it was so nice to see all my childhood friends, now all our mums are gone and it felt kind of odd that we were all there,but now all our mums who were also childhood friends are all gone. I was thinking earlier, my mums sister is the only living person who knew me as a baby ! Anyway was all fine despite my fears.
badvoc I'm sorry you have to wait a couple of weeks for your op. you never know maybe they will get a cancellation and get you in earlier. And hopefully you will be recovered by Xmas and will be able to enjoy it.
kat I'm sorry you are feeling so low, but it is literally only days from when your mum passed away.it is normal for you to feel as you do.
folly I hope the day has been bearable for you.
To everyone else thanks for your kind thoughts.

Champagnecharleyismyname Fri 22-Nov-13 22:33:31

For my mum 12.12.11 and my dad 27.12.94, miss you all the time but especially as Christmas comes.

mummylin Sat 23-Nov-13 13:54:22

champagne how lovely that you have paid a tribute to your parents here. By the date of you losing your mum it was very close to when I lost mine. It is hard at these special times isn't it. But we will never forget or stop loving them no matter the amount of years.

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