Desolate knows nothing about the Royal Navy either Kami - far too many inaccuracies and inconsistencies in what she has posted.

FWIW, I have known women like Jane and have known people who have sent taxis and takeaways around to people they wanted to annoy. They were usually sixth formers. Jane doesn't seem to have grown up yet. Some people are just leeches and users and the only way to deal with them is to walk away. I found moving the other side of the channel helped as well.

I couldn't have said it better than the last few posts.
I also agree that this is a BORING and MINOR problem, and I'll be forever grateful if life doesn't get worse than this. My beautiful, sweet DD has her Mummy all to herself again, and I intend to enjoy every minute of our time together.

Sorry - completely out of time and obviously only ready the first part of this... D'oh.

I can be a bit of a sucker for stories like this but I don't think she is making it up. Sadly I have come across a few people like Jane.

It's not the most exciting story is it? I'm not quite sure why it has grabbed our collective attention like it has and I think a troll would go for something a bit more dramatic than taking the mickey with playdates.

Well, my view is fairly simple.

1) This is not a thread where Kami has made claims that are so ridiculous that no one could believe them. It's a plausible, believable scenario. It's also, let's face it folks, fairly MINOR. Person is rather horrible at school. It ain't that traumatic, Kami doesn't seem traumatised, just upset and baffled by the whole thing. Most troll threads I've seen here plug into much bigger issues - domestic violence, child mortality, cancer etc etc. If Kami's a troll, which I don't believe, then she's a troll who makes up stories about a friend being horrible to her. No one is going to get emotionally distraught from reading this thread, which is usually the worry with trolls who seek support.

2) Kami has not asked for help, other than advice. She's not asked for money. She's not posted more and more despairing details of her terrible life, to suck us all in to caring for her. She HAS updated us, and remember that we asked her to.

3) Jane, whoever she is, is a bit of a nutter. We all agreed that right at the beginning. So, the story so far is, "woman generally agreed to be a nutter is currently acting as a nutter." Not really an odd story at all.

In fact, it all seems remarkably consistent and lowkey. Now if Kami were to come on and say "My GOD it turns out that Jane is having an AFFAIR with my HUSBAND and he BEAT ME UP" then yes, you might have a point, troll-hunters. But realistically, I think it's impossible to tell either way and if it WERE a troll thread then it's a totally harmless one.

And as it happens, I'm not naive. There is a thread I'm watching with a raised eyebrow, elsewhere on the board, because whilst it MAY be true, something seems slightly manipulative about it. I have no intention of going onto that thread and mentioning the fact, though, because I prefer in general to give people the benefit of the doubt.

Tinkerbelle I think it's time to step away from the HomeDetective Channel...

Ignore it all Kami. MNHQ would have been in touch if they were concerned. It's just The Thing To Do on here at the moment.

Yes, jajas, I was thinking that... OP told us everything apparently as it happened.

Gah, some people love the thrill of the Troll Hunt... And as for desolate and kami being one and the same??? Just DAFT!

Kami, thinking of you, hope you are getting over all this.

I don't understand this issue about drip-feeding information being a problem? One is hardly like to write one's entire life story in the opening paragraph of one's first ever thread on a humungous forum like this --- is one <glares at the great unwashed>?

Thanks, lucykate..I've skimmed thru the thread and I'm totally baffled. First of all, how could that possibly be me? I know sweet FA about the Royal Navy. And secondly, I thought the lady was genuine, I couldn't detect any bullshit in her posts...but then I'm not known for being a good judge of character. She seemed really depressed and I think she left the thread cos she was embarrassed about not moving out..? I would've disappeared too, if I hadn't said no to Jane in the end.
If someone really has the patience and imagination to make up two such different stories, wouldn't they also make sure that the writing style didn't seem the same? Would they mention the same make of car in both threads? If I wanted to be someone else, I'd make sure that the two styles didn't match. Not that they really match, but anyway. I hope that everyone will soon find out that I'm not Desolate,(how DO you find that out?does MNHQ send an email or what?)

fwiw i dont think you are a troll either. people just should ignore posts they think are, I've followed this thread and was so pleased when you stood up to her, just keep doing the same. x