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To think if my husband could get hold of a gun he may do the same

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Thefishewife · 17/11/2016 13:28

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3943864/Alabama-father-shot-dead-daughter-s-sexual-abuser-sentenced-40-years-jail.html

Killing is wrong however I can't say if my husband had the acesss to guns they do in the us he wouldn't do the same I saw how he reacted when our 16 year old was attacked last he grabbed a hammer and went looking for the guys

I couldn't say with all honesty if one of our daughters was sexually abused he wouldn't kill the and I am ashamed to say I might let him 😳🙁


I just being honest he did need to be punished but I think 40 years since to long if that's not provacation don't know what is

I just don't think you would be thinking clearly of something like that happened

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BIWI · 17/11/2016 13:30

He killed someone. No matter what the provocation.

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Sparlklesilverglitter · 17/11/2016 13:31

How is having her dad in prison for 40 years gong to help the daughter? She needs her family support.

As a parent I can see why you'd want to hurt someone that hurt your child however to me that does excuse murder and it certainly does help your child when your locked away

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ChardonnayKnickertonSmythe · 17/11/2016 13:31

Good thing he doesn't have access to a gun then.

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Thefishewife · 17/11/2016 13:33

No agree totally but I can see how this could of happened

I do think he should be punished but I think 40 years considering the man in question abused his daughter is a bit harsh

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OnionKnight · 17/11/2016 13:33

If he did do that then he'd be an idiot.

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user1471451684 · 17/11/2016 13:33

I doubt the guy would have survived prison anyway. I would expect most people would want to defend their kids.

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kali110 · 17/11/2016 13:33

Anyoneelse getting a popup when clocking on the linkConfused

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EatTheCake · 17/11/2016 13:34

I don't think the fathers actions will help his DD in the long run. After abuse she will need her family and he can't support her from behind bars.

What about if she needs protecting in the future? Dad won't be around
Who will support her? Dad won't around
Who will miss 40 years of his DD life? The bad will
I'm not sure the dad is covered in glory TBH

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kali110 · 17/11/2016 13:34

I think he deserved prison, but the sentance was much too long.

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PilkoPumpPants · 17/11/2016 13:34

I feel the same as you fishe.

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PilkoPumpPants · 17/11/2016 13:35

40years in prison is far too long.

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TheWrathFromHighAtopTheThing · 17/11/2016 13:37

Well, what kind of message would it send if the sentence was reduced due to the circumstances? That's as good as saying it's not quite as bad to murder someone if they've done wrong, or you're really pissed off with them.

Murder is murder is murder.

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Pinkheart5915 · 17/11/2016 13:37

So the girl suffers abuse and then loses her father for 40 years, well the dad really helped her then didn't he?

His a murderer he deserves prisons.

If someone hurt my DC in that way I'd much rather DH used his brain and supported his child that acting that way

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Thefishewife · 17/11/2016 13:38

I don't belive if any dads could get ther abuser of there child in a room
When they left the room the perpetrator would still be standing let alone alive

I thi

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MackerelOfFact · 17/11/2016 13:39

It's never OK to kill someone. There is a criminal justice system for a reason. It's their job to find out if someone is guilty and then dispense the punishment. Vigilante justice, however tempting, is not acceptable.

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OliviaBensonOnAGoodDay · 17/11/2016 13:41

You can't just go round killing people who hurt your kids. Or people who you think hurt your kids. What if you got it wrong? Mistaken identity, a mix up?

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TheWrathFromHighAtopTheThing · 17/11/2016 13:42

Well fishwife that's why there's an entire justice system and we don't just let citizens beat each other to death as punishment. Confused

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WorraLiberty · 17/11/2016 13:46

Why Dads though?

I couldn't say with all honesty if one of our daughters was sexually abused he wouldn't kill the and I am ashamed to say I might let him

Would you want to kill the abuser and if so, would your DH 'let' you?

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Thisjustinno · 17/11/2016 13:48

Violence is unacceptable. Always. When we say that it's acceptable under certain circumstances then we legitimise it.

One of the first excuses for violence tends to be 'I was provoked'. I'd be worried that your husband grabbed a hammer to go looking for who attacked your DC if I'm honest.

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iloveeverykindofcat · 17/11/2016 13:49

I don't believe the sentence should be mitigated. You either believe in the rule of law or you don't. Once you start making exceptions, however justifiable individual cases ma sound, you're on the slide to anarchy.

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SuffolkBumkin · 17/11/2016 13:50

Everything about a peadophile repulsed me. Until I worked in a psychiatric hospital. The Care plans would read like a horror movie. But very quickly I began to realise that a great many of them are terribly tortured souls who had been victims of horrendous sexual abuse themselves. They needed to be kept saying away from vulnerable potential victims but needed protecting themselves iyswim?
Easy to be sympathetic if it not a affected personally though, maybe I would feel different if it was my daughter who had been abused?

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AmeliaJack · 17/11/2016 13:51

We have laws and courts for a reason.

Otherwise everything falls apart.

If it's OK for a father to kill someone who abused their daughter, does it become ok to beat someone up who called her names and upset her?

Does it become ok to murder someone you "suspect" raped or assaulted your daughter, even if there's no proof? What happens if it turns out that you're wrong?

What happens if mobs start hunting people down because of rumours?


And yes I would hate anyone who hurt my children but that's why I wouldn't be allowed on the jury.

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JeepersMcoy · 17/11/2016 13:51

I have very little time of men who think it helps for them to go on some sort of revenge mission. It is generally selfish, allowing him to feel all big and tough. As others have said it certainly will not help his daughter in any way whatsoever.

Of course if someone hurt my dd my. dh would be furious. Yes, we would rant and talk to each other about how we wish they could hurt as much as our daughter had been hurt. However, I would think so much less of my dh if I really believed he would act on that feeling. I expect him to be a grown up and think of what is best to support our dd not go and get himself locked up.

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user1471451684 · 17/11/2016 13:53

Miss read the original post, 40 years is too long,

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griffinsss · 17/11/2016 13:54

This is a solid example of why we need to teach men that aggression and violence isn't the answer to being hurt.

The man deserved 40 years imprisonment; he KILLED someone.

I was sexually assaulted as a teenager, my father was more concerned with my wellbeing and making an effort to be there for me (however awkward he found the situation) rather than hunting down the person who did it and then being unable to support me due to being in prison....

Basically what JeepersMccoy said, but less eloquently.

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