NC for this.
Someone I worked with some years ago had a stillbirth. She left her job but I'm still linked to her FB page. I barely know her but it seemed to me to be one of the most horrific experiences a woman could endure. My repeat miscarriages felt 'trivial' in comparison to her experience.
She has since gone on to have healthy DCs, as have I.
The thing is, every year since then they celebrate Baby A's birthday. (I'm not sure celebrate is the word though).
By this I mean a proper birthday cake, candles, birthday cards. And it's all on Facebook - lots of photos of them (including very young DCs who never knew their brother) gloomily staring at lit candles. Picture after picture. It really looks staged and very very surreal. Loads of 'happy birthday baby a' in the comments which I can't bring myself to add to.
I totally understand never forgetting, always remembering, marking moments etc, but I feel very odd seeing these pics. I feel like a heartless bitch even saying this, but it just feels odd somehow.
I don't even know what it is that I have an issue with: the very public FB posts? The incongruity of miserableness over lit birthday cake candles? I also can't imagine how my own 3 year old could ever process this if she was asked to participate like this other persons DCs do.
I know IABU. Her life, her way. Of course. I would never comment negatively if I saw her again. None of my business. But I can't get it out my head and clearly am not understanding something despite thinking about it a lot. I'm prepared to be flamed for this. Interested to know what others think.
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to really not understand these birthday parties [trigger warning - stillbirth and bereavement]
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abunchofnc · 26/03/2016 20:31
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