Ok so I posted earlier but I've now had to call the police...

(296 Posts)
MeepMeepVrooom Tue 25-Feb-14 17:14:22

I posted earlier about my ExH taking pictures from my FB page and putting them on his, he tagged his girlfriend of 2 weeks in them etc etc...

I have just been to pick up my DD from nursery to be told than a woman fitting his new girlfriends description tried to collect DD from nursery. They called me but I was already on my way and told them I would deal with it, they refused to release my DD (obviously) and waited on me.

She was gone by the time i got there and have called 101 once I was home.

This bizarre behaviour seems to be escalating and I'm getting worried. I know where the woman is right now and tbh I'm trying my best to stay calm and not go to her and go through her like a ton of bricks.

Has anyone been in this position? I'm really struggling to sit tight right now.

NatashaBee Tue 25-Feb-14 17:19:16

How awful. At least your nursery are on the ball. Can you make sure they have it documented that only you can pick up your DD? (inc a picture of you so that it's clear to all staff who you are?).

HortenMarket Tue 25-Feb-14 17:20:03

Not sure what to say just couldn't not answer. It all sounds a bit scary. Does ExH have contact/parental rights over DD?

What did police say?

MeepMeepVrooom Tue 25-Feb-14 17:21:02

They know they have known about the situation for the last 2 year. Hence the phonecall.

I am normally a relatively calm person in real life but holy hell my blood is boiling. I've had a lot of issues with the family recently but surely this is taking it too far??

Logg1e Tue 25-Feb-14 17:21:41

You don't know that it's this woman, I would ask the police to deal with the incident on this basis.

MeepMeepVrooom Tue 25-Feb-14 17:22:59

The police have said they will visit tonight at some point. He has no contact at all. He is on DD birth certificate and we were married at the time but has no contact.

lollipoppi Tue 25-Feb-14 17:23:46

WTAF?
Stay calm and let the police deal with it

MeepMeepVrooom Tue 25-Feb-14 17:23:51

No I don't know at all. But she is very recognisable from her description...

I don't know many woman with pink hair!

SantasLittleMonkeyButler Tue 25-Feb-14 17:23:52

Oh gosh shock how odd. Do you have any reason to believe that your ex would be wanting to abduct your DD? Or does he have contact already & you think he is just trying to cause you trouble?

Whichever is the case, what the hell is his new GF doing thinking she has any rights over a child when she has only been with one of the parents for a fortnight!

CloverHeart Tue 25-Feb-14 17:24:21

Wow, alarm bells are ringing away on this one!

Glad the nursery are secure and glad you called 101. How bizarre is this woman?

HenriettaPie Tue 25-Feb-14 17:24:25

I read your thread earlier,what a nightmare for you! confused

HortenMarket Tue 25-Feb-14 17:24:40

I suppose you have to let the police do their thing. Obviously your blood must be boiling.

Thank goodness the nursery did the right thing.

KaFayOLay Tue 25-Feb-14 17:24:58

Does he want contact?
Can he have contact?

Sorry, haven't seen your back story.

JabberJabberJay Tue 25-Feb-14 17:25:38

I would definitely call the police.

I would also suggest blocking your ex and his GF on FB so they can't copy pictures of your DC.

Logg1e Tue 25-Feb-14 17:26:31

What I meant was that the police would surely take it more seriously and investigate if they don't know who they are dealing with. Perhaps I've got the wrong attitude, but I'd want to kick up an almighty fuss about this. Perhaps local schools should be warned about a possible abduction... that kind of thing.

MeepMeepVrooom Tue 25-Feb-14 17:26:48

I'm swinging between feeling like bursting into tears and wanting to kill them (obviously I won't)

DD is happily watching monsters inc in our house which is locked up like fort knox

He has zero contact, hasn't for a while. Didn't want contact through his own choice.

trampstamp Tue 25-Feb-14 17:27:05

Can I say op you must de friend and close your privacy setting to him or any one else who knows him also,

I would ask the nursery if any one try's to pick him up you don't know to call the frigging police

SantasLittleMonkeyButler Tue 25-Feb-14 17:27:42

X-posts. Ah, I see - no contact. So you will naturally assume that they were trying to abduct DD sad.

Poor, poor you. Do you have anyone to support you & sit with you in RL?

I assume there is a very good reason that your ExH does not have contact with DD as the police are aware of the situation. As opposed to there being no particular reason but he just hasn't bothered.

How would he know which nursery DD attends? Do you think you maybe need to come off FB for a while?

Jemma1111 Tue 25-Feb-14 17:28:14

Can you ask the nursery to look at their cctv?

KaFayOLay Tue 25-Feb-14 17:28:46

Oh, that is even more bizarre then.

Maybe isn't the new gf then.
Well done on the nursery for being on the ball!

LilyBlossom14 Tue 25-Feb-14 17:29:21

I hope the police help - but please make your Facebook as private and secure as you can. Any friends who may share stuff you can restrict them, and limit future posts so only friends, and not restricted/acquaintances, can see them.

Jemma1111 Tue 25-Feb-14 17:29:51

Posted too soon

jusr to see for certain who was trying to collect your dd

SantasLittleMonkeyButler Tue 25-Feb-14 17:30:18

X-posts again smile. He doesn't have contact because he couldn't be bothered - and now he thinks getting his new GF to attempt to abduct a child she's never met from nursery is the way to go about seeing her angry.

The mind boggles at some people.

MeepMeepVrooom Tue 25-Feb-14 17:31:02

I have blocked them both along with deleting the pictures...

To be honest Logg1e regardless of who the person was/is I'm going to kick up shit. Of course I am. It's my kid. I know where you are coming from but they are both strangers to my DD and if it is someone else then they are a stranger too.

LuciusMalfoyisSmokingHot Tue 25-Feb-14 17:31:46

I'd look into finding DD a new nursery and keeping that quiet.

How awful, if my ex or his gf did something like that i'd be spitting fire, your ex chooses not to see your DD, can you look into getting residency, so he cant just take her?

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