for not wanting my other children to go near our youngest??

[staycalmandcarryon]

My DS2 is 7 months old, he has had several infections, Bronchiolitis and now an infection in his right lung... pneumonia, we have spent most of the weekend in hospital, he is now under a specialist etc

My DSS who is nearly 4 has constant coughs and colds, my eldest DS who is 7 is never ever poorly (touch wood) other than terrible croup when he was younger and a random attack last year.

I have said that in future when DSS has a cough and a cold, I need to keep them separate as my youngest doesnt just get a cough or cold it gets serious, resulting in numerous hospital visits, sleepness nights, medication, steroids and antibiotics which is extremely stressful for him, his lungs and me.

I am expecting another baby in October, so my emotions are heightened.

However I feel this is reasonable, I know it is difficult to do that and not the best situation but I dont want my baby being this poorly I am his mother and I have a natural instinct to protect him, I dont enjoy watching him struggling for breath, not eating and generally being really poorly so if I can prevent it then I will do whatever I can.

[Tee2072]

So you're what? Ignoring your older children in favour of the health of your younger? How can they stay away from the baby and get what they need from you at the same time?

[LittleMissMcFartyPants]

Does that include your DS or just your DSS?

[Housewifefromheaven]

Yabu. Very. You're not seeing things straight IMO. How would you enforce it??

[FoxSake]

YABU if your ds's. Was your child you wouldn't keep them apart children making their siblings I'll is life. My friends baby has recently come home following a heart transplant she doesn't keep her older school age dd away from her despite the risks.

[Lovetats]

Have I got this right? You want to keep your stepson away from your baby in case the baby gets sick?

[hathorkicksass]

DS or just DSS?

[FoxSake]

Shit post, apologies, damn you auto correct. I shall resign now but OP I hope you have your flame proof trousers.

[curiositykitten]

I can understand that you are concerned about the welfare of your youngest child, but the fact is that you are treating your DSS differently because he is your stepson, and not your own blood.

[FoxSake]

Perhaps your baby is making you dss sick?

[staycalmandcarryon]

By explaining to them that he gets very poorly and will have to be admitted to hospital, so for just a few days, keep a distance, until your better. potentially saving hospital visits which is 30 mins away, them having to stay with family whilst I am with the youngest, late night rushes to a&e etc

thanks for the advice :)

[staycalmandcarryon]

not sure how that works when DS is healthy, then DSS gets a cold then DS is ill in hospital.

[hathorkicksass]

YABVU

I am for your DSS

[hathorkicksass]

You are making a difference between your DSS and your DS.

And that is just wrong.

[Tee2072]

Not treating her step son any differently than her son. She wants them both to stay away from the baby.

Again, how do you mother a 7 year old from a distance? Or especially a visiting 4 year old step-son, assuming he doesn't live with you.

[FoxSake]

No she said when dss has a cold.

[hathorkicksass]

Whatever.

I'm out.

[staycalmandcarryon]

he does live with us, it is the same for both of them, to me its not the end of the world when in reality its only for a few days saving weeks of illness which is potentially life threatening shall I add

[MeconiumHappens]

YABU. It just not possible to seperate your children like this :S

[staycalmandcarryon]

foxsake I blatantly explained in original post that DS is never ill apart croup when he was younger and a random attack last year

[Tee2072]

So you are neglecting your older children, step or otherwise, in favour of your baby?

YABU Extremely.

[HamblesHandbag]

YABU

Your child can pick pick up germs from all over the place - from all kinds of surfaces, even you!

Are you going to keep your DS in a bubble and handle him with sterile gloves??

You're treating your other children as if they are lepers or something

[CaptainVonTrapp]

YANBU. So when your DS or DSS is ill you want them to stay away from your baby who seems to be prone to picking things up (and ending up in hospital).

Of course it will be tricky but like you said you will just explain why and be extra careful - just as you would with a child who was for example immunosupressed. Obviously it will be hard for you to do but you will all be better off if you are not in hospital with a sick baby for days at a time.

[hathorkicksass]

So, coincidentally, the one who gets sick the most and who will lose out in this arrangement is your DSS.

But your DS is never sick.

Now, I really am out.

Hiding this thread because it's just horrible to a 3 year old child who is going to be treated like a leper.

Literally.

[Wheresmycaffeinedrip]

I can understand your y you think this would be a good idea but I just don't see how you can really do it :( it's not your dss fault and at four he isn't going to understand why you won't let him near his brother. Unfortunately second third etc dc just get sick more as they are dragged here there and every where pretty much from day one in order to take siblings to school/ parties etc. If he is under a specialist then does that mean they think there's an underlying cause to all this? It's more than
Possible he caught it from the children at school when you pick up your older ds. That might even be y dss keeps getting colds too. You are just as likely to have him exposed in a shop on a bus. Please don't segregate your family over something that's no ones fault. ( coming from someone who's dd2 was in and out of hospital for first three months due to bronchiolitis amongst other things ) :)

[staycalmandcarryon]

so its ok for a snotty nosed child be it my DS or DSS to cough and sneeze in DS face which happens, knowing that in 2 days time will be in hospital as DS will get an infection in his lung (PNEUMONIA)

OOOOOK then :)