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AIBU?

to be upset with DH for admitting he finds me unattractive

130 replies

moobrain · 19/11/2011 22:20

Asked DH why he was less affectionate to me.

He told me that my legs are 'awful' especially around the thighs.

I got upset and he then said that this was why he doesnt like talking about it.

The thing is I am probably about 1/2 stone heavier than pre-baby, am a size 10, fit most my old clothes apart from my 'thin day' clothes.

AIBU or should I appreciate his honesty (if not his tact!)

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magic8 · 19/11/2011 22:23

poor you!
and how shallow of him,relationship are based on more than weight

FabbyChic · 19/11/2011 22:23

No need for him to say that at all that's mean. I hope you told him he has ugly bollocks.and a cheesy dick.

LaVitaBellissima · 19/11/2011 22:23

AIBU - no
Should I appreciate his honesty - NO

Hope you told him where to go! , has he always been so tactless/rude? Does he have abs of steel?

I'm sure there's more to it than your thighs, it's tough having a new baby and it does put pressure on a relationship. Hugs for you!

G1nger · 19/11/2011 22:24

There's nothing to appreciate, there's really not. Tear him off a strip and make sure he understands how to talk with you in future. Btw, my view- you sound great already.

camtt · 19/11/2011 22:24

I would be wary if I were you of now rushing off to diminish the thighs, even though you will feel like it now they have been commented on. I suggest you let him know that it is natural for many people to change shape after they have children and that, who knows, one day he too may have a less than perfect physique.

YANBU

DamnBamboo · 19/11/2011 22:24

Fuck me.
What a dick!
I mean, really... what a dick!

BadDayAtTheOrifice · 19/11/2011 22:25

Your husband is a tit.

He should be affectionate towards you because he loves you and you are his DC's mother.

You should not appreciate his honesty. What does he expect you to do about it and how did he expect you to feel about it?

He's being very unreasonable.

worraliberty · 19/11/2011 22:25

I'm going to guess there's more to it than just gaining half a stone and being a size 10, OP

DogStinkhorn · 19/11/2011 22:25

He's an adonis is he?

CountingDown321 · 19/11/2011 22:27

he sounds really shallow!

YANBU to be upset.

YABU if you let it affect your self esteem.

Hassled · 19/11/2011 22:27

You're a size 10 and he has a problem? Is he some sort of Adonis himself?

Of course you're justified in being upset. There's honesty, and then there's cruelty.

SarahStratton · 19/11/2011 22:27

You're a size 10 and he's criticising your body?

What a cunt. Time to critique his cock, methinks.

Sassybeast · 19/11/2011 22:27

Is he generally an insensitive shallow prick OP ? He is so far out of order - hope he feels like shite for upsetting you

lubeybooby · 19/11/2011 22:27

Half a stone heavier and a size ten is nothing at all unless you are 2ft 10 in height which I doubt. He is being very very shallow and very mean. YANBU

I'm much bigger than you and never had anything but compliments and enthusiasm.

BeerTricksPotter · 19/11/2011 22:29

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samandi · 19/11/2011 22:32

YANBU, obviously.

CountingDown321 · 19/11/2011 22:32

And I'm sorry OP, I think either you are married to a shallow arsewipe of an excuse for a man, or he's deflecting from another issue...

BadDayAtTheOrifice · 19/11/2011 22:32

I've never heard of a man refuse sex because of 'bad thighs'

DogStinkhorn · 19/11/2011 22:33

Are you having other issues?

WobbledWeeble · 19/11/2011 22:34

I TOTALLY get this OP. I went up to a size ten after having DD and was called unattractive by partner - it hurt SO much. I was so angry - after having a baby women need support to rebuild their confidence. Unfortunately some men don't understand the impact on a woman's body that pregnancy and childbirth entails. Explain you feel hurt, talk about what you need from him.

SarahStratton · 19/11/2011 22:36

I think I'd pass out with joy if I woke up a size 10.

winnybella · 19/11/2011 22:37

Either he's an emotionally stunted twunt or there are other issues. Even if there are other issues he's still an emotionally stunted twunt. HTH.

Btw, half a stone is nothing. That's around 7 pounds, yes? 3.5 kilos? What a dick.

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MenopausalHaze · 19/11/2011 22:38

I'd tell him to fuck off and find a nice tolerant good humoured size 8 woman with perfect thighs and go bestow his magnificence on her! What a knob! And I bet he's a pin-dick too!

BeerTricksPotter · 19/11/2011 22:38

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NewsClippings · 19/11/2011 22:40

I'm sorry but half a stone? That's nothing, and surely attractiveness isn't about weight anyway?

Maybe this is not the main issue...

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